I once encountered a case where a counselor and her boyfriend had been in love for three years and had met each other's parents. They were scheduled to get married on November 11th that year, but a few months before the wedding, her boyfriend suddenly had a bad attitude towards her and had a significant change. The counselor also began to fight with her boyfriend until one day, he found a receipt from a marriage agency in his bag, and the counselor was furious at the time, Immediately, he rushed in and lifted the blanket to question his boyfriend. At first, he didn't admit it, but later he apologized to the counselor and said he didn't do anything wrong to me. It's just that I ignored him a few days ago. His mind was momentarily confused and he went there, but he never saw anyone before, making me stop thinking nonsense. The counselor also felt aggrieved in her heart. She couldn't forgive her boyfriend's behavior, so she continued to suspect him in the following days until he spoke of breaking up and came for psychological counseling.
So through such a case, we can find that their relationship was supposed to improve, but they missed the best reality. So, how can we retain our boyfriend as we approach marriage?
Firstly, change yourself.
For this consultant, she urgently needs to change herself, especially in terms of her emotional management skills. When our emotional management skills improve, we naturally do not adopt the extreme methods of cold war or exhaustion when encountering problems. Therefore, the author suggests that women can change themselves in two ways: first, read more. Women who love reading see the world differently from women who do not love reading, They have richer emotions and stronger beliefs inside, which can also improve women's appearance. Therefore, reading is very beneficial for women. In a breakup, reading can help women quickly overcome the shadow of a breakup and also help them gain better attractiveness. When you have sufficient attractiveness, the difficulty of chasing back your ex boyfriend naturally decreases a lot. Secondly, finding time to travel alone and encounter a breakup can cause great harm to the girl's heart. In this moment of injury, it is difficult to reason and calm down to think about some issues that need to be considered, or to face the reality of a breakup. Travel is a good medicine, and during the journey, it is important to focus on the beauty of the journey, carry a camera and notebook with you, and record the mood and beauty of the journey at any time, During travel, you can view others more as a bystander and also see the problems you have experienced. At the same time, during the journey, you can rediscover an opportunity to get to know yourself and discover a different self. Travel is not about traveling for the world. On the way of walking, there will be many tests for oneself. Travel, walk, speak with footprints. What is discovered is actually a different self. Throw away all worldly things and briefly pursue the freedom you want. The gains brought by these journeys will purify your soul, allowing your ex boyfriend to discover a different you, instantly helping him find an effective life-saving straw.
Secondly, convey your changes.
When you are trying to improve your attractiveness in some way, you also need to communicate it to the other party through some means, such as email, WeChat, etc., and give them some simple language transmission. During this process, it is urgent to pay attention to the combination of initiative and passivity.