Post Date May, 07 2023
Many people may believe that marriage problems can be solved by reading relevant books, and even through psychological therapy. Actually, it's not the case. Maintaining a happy marriage does not require major adjustments or overhauls to the marital relationship, but rather some seemingly insignificant "adjustments" that can be achieved through long-term persistence. A certain emotional journal has summarized the "formula" for making marriage happier and more stable, which is to persist in spending 6 hours per week and doing 6 small things.
1. Goodbye and greetings
Before going out in the morning and saying goodbye, take some time to have a brief conversation and understand one of the important things your partner needs to do that day, whether it's having lunch with friends, going to the hospital for medical treatment, or talking to your parents on the phone... Before going out in the morning, a few wordy words can help you understand if the other person has anything exciting or exciting, rather than leaving without saying goodbye.
Time schedule: 10 minutes per week, 5 working days, 2 minutes per day.
2. Reunion conversation
After finishing busy work and seeing your significant other again, you can create a simple reunion ceremony, such as kissing for 6 seconds, to make both parties look forward to rushing home. After the reunion ceremony, couples should have a conversation for at least 20 minutes, which can help alleviate the pressure encountered in work, provide opportunities for both parties to empathize and have "non sexual intimacy", and also allow couples to understand each other's pressures and problems outside of marriage.
Time schedule: 1 hour and 40 minutes per week, 5 working days, 20 minutes per day.
3. Appreciation and praise
Seize the opportunity to sincerely express admiration and appreciation to your partner. Couples can try writing a praise diary to record some of the big and small things that their partner has done in their marital life that you admire, appreciate, and move. This will make their partner feel valued and allow them to see the positive side of their partner. For example, a husband can say to his wife, "Thank you for helping me wash the dishes last night and letting me finish my work in a hurry. You are such a considerate and kind wife
Time schedule: 35 minutes per week, 5 minutes per day.
4. Body caress
When couples are together, physical caressing can help enhance their relationship. Embracing or kissing before falling asleep and saying good night to each other can help couples release the accumulated worries, stress, and worries during the day, enhancing their intimacy.
Time schedule: 35 minutes per week, 5 minutes per day.
5. Two person world
The 'two person world' is crucial for couples. Setting aside official and private "dates" can enhance marital relationships in a relaxed and romantic way. When dating, you can try asking open-ended questions, such as "I want to go on vacation with you, have you had any plans in mind?" or "How did your boss treat you this week.
Time schedule: 2 hours, once a week.
6. Regular meetings
Marriage experts point out that just spending one hour a week discussing the concerns of both parties in marriage can change the way couples handle conflicts. Spend time discussing disagreements every week, giving couples the freedom to express their concerns and concerns about marriage, making them feel that their partner is still listening and caring for themselves, rather than being ignored. The weekly meeting can be conducted as follows: first, evaluate which aspects of the marriage have been working well since the last meeting. Then give each other 5 'likes' that have not been expressed before, specific and with examples. Next, we will focus on discussing the emerging issues in marriage. Couples should take turns serving as spokespersons and listeners.
Time schedule: 1 hour per week.
