Post Date August, 11 2023
After the honeymoon, due to returning to reality from the intoxicating fantasy life, there is a certain sense of psychological fatigue, loss, and emptiness. Two couples form a family, with certain constraints on each other. Coupled with the disillusionment of idols, confusion about a new life, differences in economic views, constant exposure of shortcomings, disharmony in sexual life, monotonous life, and the complexity of family interpersonal relationships, conflicts arise naturally. So, how to keep the relationship between husband and wife from fading?
1. Being honest and loving is a force that motivates people to strive for progress. The first thing between a couple is a harmony in their thoughts and emotions, as well as a mutual compensation in their psychological activities. Only in this way can both parties develop a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, couples should be honest with each other, achieve mutual respect, love, and care for each other, which is more enjoyable than giving gifts.
2. Frequent communication between husband and wife requires frequent sitting down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and express the joy and bitterness in one's heart. Especially in times of adversity, what is most needed is the comfort of loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the Psychological stress of the other party, strengthen the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in distress.
3. Respect each other's personality traits. A couple, even childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are naturally restless and have been wandering around for many years, unable to stay at home. And the wife is naturally quiet and has a narrow social circle, hoping that her husband will be at home with her all day. Every time the husband returns from exhaustion, the wife looks unhappy and sometimes gets a little irritable. If the husband cannot bear it, there may be arguments. A considerate wife or husband should respect the other person's personality traits, not impose their own will on them, but reserve a certain amount of freedom and allow them to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a form of confinement, but rather a warm home where one should fully utilize their individual characteristics and become attached to each other.
4. To learn patience between couples, it is important to learn patience. Chekov once said, "The most important thing in married life is patience." When the other party loses temper or sends provocative signals, it is best to adopt patience and avoidance methods, or put oneself in a position to understand the reasons, to help relieve oneself, rather than being influenced by the other party's emotions and putting oneself in a state of emotional distress.
5. After taking the initiative to take on household chores and getting married, there are some important matters that need to be negotiated together, but more of them are daily trivial matters such as daily necessities. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the shared sharing of household chores, actively taking on a part of the household chores, which is a concrete manifestation of the husband taking care of his wife and the wife showing consideration for him. If you need help from the other party, it's best to replace the directive "you'll do it" with a friendly "help".
6. To use one's own warmth to influence the other party. For example, on rainy days, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to the station to greet his wife; The husband reads or writes at night under the light, while the wife quietly delivers a cup of hot tea and milk. This method of enhancing emotions often leads to the cessation of resentment in the other party.
7. If the cause of the contradiction is indeed one's own fault, it is advisable to correct it the next day to signal one's concession and apologize to the other party.
8. Patiently listen to the other party's confidences. When the other party confides in certain things or solicits opinions, it is important to be patient and not be impatient or answer incorrectly. Do not interrupt the other party's conversation or use an ultimatum like tone to teach the other party a lesson.
9. Everyone has their own shortcomings when not picking faults. Do not use sarcastic methods to "pick faults", especially when there are guests present. Do not embarrass the other party. If the other party does have shortcomings and mistakes, it is better to patiently persuade them.
10. Don't mention the past and each person's own love history. Don't bring up old things again. Letters should be destroyed to avoid unnecessary incidents.
11. The humorous method is to make a joke at the appropriate time, naturally make a humorous action, break the tense atmosphere with laughter, and transfer negative emotions.
12. Living a good sexual life is a physiological need for men and women, which is natural and reasonable. Harmony in sexual life between couples must be based on emotional harmony. We should understand and encourage each other. Especially when sexual life is not harmonious, we should not worry and complain. We should not ignore the exciting and fading periods of sexual life. We should strive to make both parties reach Orgasm synchronously. Couples should have sex in an affectionate atmosphere from beginning to end, so that both parties feel warm, sweet, happy and satisfied.
Psychological factors are the key to sexual well-being
People often place too much emphasis on techniques in sexual intercourse, and once they find that they cannot, they are also accustomed to blaming themselves or the other party's physiological problems and improving their physical performance through various means. Many times, they use their strength in the wrong place.
A group of 628 people in china participated in the study of etiology classification of ed (Erectile dysfunction) patients, which showed that psychological problems accounted for 39%. Experts say that tension, stress, depression, anxiety, and marital discord are common conditions among male ED patients. In fact, they have no physical problems at all. Experts have encountered such an example in an outpatient clinic: a patient in his 40s found himself repeatedly "defeated" during sexual intercourse, and coupled with some complaints from his wife, "not giving up" became his nightmare. But at the same time, he found that during masturbation, he could fully "regain his virility". Later, when I went to the doctor, I realized that ED was completely caused by psychological problems.
For women, psychological factors are even more important. According to clinical statistics, women suffer from Sexual dysfunction three times more than men. Among them, frigidity, difficulty in sexual arousal and Vaginismus are all related to psychology. Experts point out that most women are emotional, with emotional cracks, lack of confidence in their body shape, excessive pressure from life and work, and anxiety, all of which may make them lose interest in sex.
From an age perspective, a major 'killer' of sexual activity among young and middle-aged people is clearly work. A survey on the causes of "asexual marriage" shows that 33.4% of people lack sex due to work pressure. Many young and middle-aged people lack the time and energy to enjoy sex due to the high pressure of survival, leading to anxiety, depression, etc., "said the expert.
Elderly people believe that sex is a matter for young people or avoid it due to concerns about their sexual dysfunction. If there is no sexual stimulation for a long time, various Sexual dysfunction problems may be further aggravated.
When the relationship tends to be flat and the novelty begins to disappear, the importance of psychological factors becomes apparent, which can completely make marriage and sexual relationships rejuvenate over time. Experts point out that communication is the best way to solve many problems in sex. Therefore, when it is found that the husband is no longer strong enough or the wife is as calm as water, one should never complain or use cold words to satirize. You just need to tell the other person, 'I feel good, but it could be better.' This will enhance their confidence and appreciate your thoughtfulness.
