The age difference between husband and wife is 20 years, and life is bound to be bumpy. In the recent TV series "Big Husband", which is popular on many satellite TV stations, this is the case for the male and female protagonists. The age gap of 20 years has added many twists and turns to their marriage. In real life, there are also many old couples and young wives. For these couples, how should we solve the generation gap and lifestyle problems caused by the age gap.
Parents are hard to accept
Timely adjust mentality
Scenario review: In the first few episodes of the TV series "Big Husband", when the 30-year-old heroine Gu Xiaojun took her 50-year-old fiance Ouyang Jian home to meet her parents, she was strongly opposed by her parents, especially her father Gu Dahai, who could hardly bear to see a "son-in-law" who was about the same age as herself. She even fought against Ouyang Jian and refused to attend her daughter's wedding. The father-daughter relationship was once in a cold war.
Expert analysis: When the age gap between lovers is too large, it is easy to be opposed by parents with traditional thinking. Especially when I see that my son-in-law is about the same age as myself, I feel a little "humiliating" and can't accept it.
Kong Fanye, a psychological expert at the Mental Health Branch of Shenyang Medical College, said that parents should put their minds right. If two people are not combined for a certain purpose, as long as the two people in love think it is very suitable. If parents can't put their minds right and always interfere with their children's love affairs, the elderly and children will suffer greatly, and the children's rebellious psychology will also increase. Therefore, it is better for the elderly to adjust in time.
Different living habits
Don't disguise yourself
Scenario review: After Gu Xiaojun and Ouyang Jian got married, romance gradually faded and life trivia gradually increased. Due to the age difference, there are many differences in their living habits and concepts. Gu Xiaojun likes to eat snacks and stay up late, while Ouyang Jian likes to read books, work and rest regularly, and go to bed early and get up early.
Expert analysis: Kong Fanye analyzed that in this case, both husband and wife should not disguise themselves, unless they can really change their habits for each other. Generally speaking, before marriage, both parties should see more about each other's shortcomings and see whether they can accept them. Both parties should face each other in a real image, so that they will have psychological preparation before marriage, and after marriage, they should see more about each other's advantages and learn to tolerate.
Children make trouble
Relieve with love
Scenario review: Ouyang Jian has a daughter who is no more than a few years younger than Gu Xiaojun. In her daily life, Gu Xiaojun always feels that Ouyang Jian focuses more on her daughter and ignores herself. His daughter also made trouble for her stepmother because of misunderstanding, which made Gu Xiaojun laugh and cry.
Expert analysis: In life, if one party is older, it is likely to have a child with his predecessor. After remarriage, it is not easy for the other party to get along well with the child.
Kong Fanye said that many children will have some inferiority complex mentality and mentality changes after seeing their parents remarry, thinking that their love has been deprived by others. At this time, the "young wife" should use her love to alleviate this embarrassment and tell the child, "After the remarriage of the father, your love is not reduced, but superimposed, and more people will love you." If you see that the spouse pays more attention to their children, this situation cannot be avoided, and you should be prepared before marriage, and know more about each other and understand each other.