Post Date May, 17 2023
Putting aside the technical considerations of discussing sex with children, parents' attitude towards their children is more important. Talking about sex may not be about specific content, but rather about how children receive their parents' attention and love from them. Talking and how to talk also reflect the relationship between parents, parents' attitude of not evaluating and actively responding. Here are some gender knowledge compiled by the editor for everyone, let's take a look together!
Talking to children is a technical job
Since when did a 4-year-old niece like to wear beautiful dresses and look at them. Suddenly, she began to enjoy looking at herself in the mirror, making faces in front of her, admiring her facial features, and using cards and combs to play with her hair. The mirror was enough for her to play with for a long time. Seeing her serious and intoxicated appearance, I couldn't disturb her, but I covered my mouth and smiled, hurriedly calling for others to appreciate, afraid of being discovered by her and missing out. Since when did she change clothes, she must be in the bedroom, locked on the door, and didn't want to sleep barefoot. Even without her pants, her paranoia about this matter was enough to cry.
The little girl started elementary school, and I don't know when it started. Gold idol dramas became her most important thing after dinner. Seeing the male and female protagonists competing in the theater, her face bloomed and her eyes widened.
She has a good friend with an iron rod, and the girl's name is often on her lips. She told me about the funny thing that happened at school, where a man accidentally entered the women's restroom. Ah, I was slow to react and couldn't find the point of laughter. Seeing her, I looked up at the male classmate who was making her angry in class, frowning and frowning. At the end of the small story, this male student always made her angry, using rubber or other learning tools as a reason to talk to her in class, but she couldn't concentrate on listening. I react to her, that man likes you! She expressed sharp opposition and then became restless. I don't think that young man knows why he feels a little uncomfortable every day
A nephew of the same age, his pleasure is that his cousin, who is three years younger than him, joked that he likes a girl in his class. They seem to be very interested in each other's romantic partner, he said he, and he also said he. When the two brothers argue, words such as anthophiles, perverts, and homosexuals are the firearms they use to attack each other. How much do they know about the true meaning of these words? However, as a popular and interesting joke, when speaking, the face is very happy and the smile cannot close. I asked him: Who do you like in your class? He shyly turned around and denied cleverly leading the topic to others.
Enhance children's curiosity
Don't underestimate the path of a child's growth. With such a rough amount of changes in their sexual consciousness, they can taste the honey like taste of memories.
The changes in growth and the traces of touch are in an instant, and before this moment arrives, it is difficult to detect and imagine what kind of years have accumulated and fermented. Especially for parents who are not very concerned and sensitive to changes in their children.
Capturing changes in one's own sexual consciousness also makes children very slow. When I try to recall the changes and sexy feelings I had about my body when I was young, clearer memories need to be found based on the traces of elementary school, or some emotional experiences that make me remember deeply can awaken some scattered memories when I focus on memories. These dullness, I understand, is a child's identification with the family culture created by their parents, which is both a defense and a self-protection ability.
Don't underestimate the information your child receives during their growth process. Every day, there are stimuli from the outside world (parents, teachers, classmates) (emotional, physiological), as well as internal (physical) stimuli. When receiving this information, one may circle, two circles, or three circles in the small head&hellip… Perhaps it will only stay for a while. Because of the troubles of adults. If a child is constantly disturbed, their helplessness and irritability are unimaginable, and their ability to integrate information and obtain happy experiences is the biggest concern.
6-12 years old is an important period of sexual enlightenment. Due to changes in their bodies and constant stimulation, they make new discoveries every day. These physical stimuli, external stimuli, along with their own imagination, imitation, experimentation, and adult responses, constitute their sexual enlightenment teacher, but this teacher cannot provide children with correct physiological information.
How likely do you think this information is distorted or stained?
Now it's obvious to think of the media that can be seen everywhere. More importantly, as a parent and teacher, you must talk about changes in temperament. It's even harder to say these things to your child. Moreover, it's important to say it anyway!
What perspective does a child view sex from when their knowledge of objects collected from outside is murky? In adolescence, in order to meet physiological needs and explore inner doubts, they can do more than you imagine. Don't underestimate a child's curiosity. This may be sensationalism, and bold behavior cannot happen to every child. However, it may not sound so scary, but events that have a significant psychological impact on children may not have been heard of by parents, or parents may know how to handle them appropriately. Perhaps this seemingly inconspicuous little thing that has not been paid attention to may be a permanent psychological burden on children. A child's inner world will affect their current external world, and this vague and distorted understanding of sex will inevitably accompany their future intimate relationships.
Abandoning the technical consideration of speaking to children, parents' attitude towards their children is more important. Speaking is not about specific content, but about the child receiving their attention and love from them, speaking and how to speak, and the relationship between parents
This attitude is difficult to obtain and requires professional training and guidance, just like becoming an excellent consultant requires systematic professional training.
