Post Date May, 27 2023
Russell said that half of human sin is due to fear of the boredom of life. In a long marriage, I experienced the passion and entanglement of love, the relaxation at the beginning of marriage, the emotional transfer after the birth of a child, and soon reached the weight-bearing period of middle age. With the improvement of the external environment of the family, the intimate combat relationships among members asking questions are becoming increasingly loose. Recently, American magazines have told the story of Petty and Allen's marriage, as well as how they cope with a midlife crisis, hoping to help many middle-aged couples strengthen their marriage relationships without disrupting them.
Patty is a French teacher at the university, and Allen is a programmer for an IT company. The acquaintance between two people is as vulgar and romantic as a romantic drama. That day, Petty was sitting in a coffee shop reading a magazine to pass the time. She looked up and found a neighbor's teacher leaving her phone on the table, but the person had left. Kind Petty picked up her phone and chased out, finding the man who later became her husband, Alan, at the street corner. At the beginning of marriage, the phone is the password of the couple; Every time there is an argument, who first takes out their phone to call the other party; Hello, have you lost your phone? Two people can make up.
Time is the killer, wrinkles climb up to Petty's eyes, excess weight accumulates on Allen's waist, indifference and habits cover marriage. Previously, when Petty was washing dishes, Allen accidentally hugged her from behind. Now he's just watching TV in the living room. Previously, the two of them talked quietly and hugged each other before going to bed, but now they just ask each other about their work status and sleep behind their backs. Previously, Allen liked to wake Petty up with a kiss on weekends and slowly take off her clothes, allowing the sun to see each other's warmth; Gradually, their lives became increasingly unfamiliar. After having children four years ago, they haven't had sex for a long time.
In 2008, Petty and Allen entered their 10th year of marriage. They are afraid of future variables and hope to restore their intimacy again. Red Book interviewed several experts on marital issues and outlined a change plan for Petty and Allen, hoping to use a week to revitalize their marriage.
In addition to dressing up, the famous American marriage counseling expert Frank Pitman also advocates strengthening the charm between couples by increasing psychological changes and satisfaction.
The simplest method is to add heterosexual features.
According to expert guidance, Petty bought a very beautiful new clothes, had a new perm, and had a little pink on her face, giving her a whole new look. After Allen met, he felt his eyes bright and he was like a familiar swallow returning. Alan changed into a straight suit, shaved his clean chin and hawthorn, and suddenly became full of energy. Actually, Petty and Allen are both the same, but each other has a fresh feeling in their hearts. This freshness is an attraction.
My love is different from other emotions such as mother-child affection and friendship, and based on sexual intention, it is also known as heterosexual attraction. Increasing the heterosexual characteristics of both spouses will naturally enhance the charm of love. In addition, males are visual animals, and the various information received by their eyes can easily cause sexual excitement. Therefore, nothing can move a man more than seeing a delicate and beautiful wife. Middle aged women have a semi declining appearance, sagging breasts, and gradually losing their rich and beautiful body shape. However, regularly participating in fitness activities and paying attention to decoration can help enhance the charm of the opposite sex, especially beautifying the image in the husband's heart.
The clothing of a new couple is not only about changing their head or makeup, but also about changing their temperament. If the wife's usual speaking habits are rough, occasionally the bird will rely on people and Wu Nong's soft language to bring freshness to the husband. If the husband is careless and doesn't pay much attention to his wife's mood, pulling his wife, rubbing her shoulders, and saying you've worked hard are all touching things.
Some people believe that lovers need to attract each other. In fact, after forming a family, consciously strengthening the charm between husband and wife can make your family life more enjoyable.
Daily communication should focus on technology
Marriage involves holding tea in both hands. Women have one hand in marriage, while men holding tea have the other hand, holding hot water. The hand that adds water must know the temperature and temperature of the water. The hand that adds tea must know the quality of the tea variety. Only by cooperating with both hands by default can we extract good tea that is filled with smoke and has a floating aroma.
I have encountered it before, and at this time, love is still there, but intimacy is compromised. Frank Pitman explained.
Someone has drawn a historical map for marriage, which is divided into four stages. The first stage is the burning years of passion, and the passionate love makes it impossible for the two to overcome on the journey. In the second stage, one becomes confused and discovers what their spouse is thinking and saying. In the third stage, the two find themselves on the road to go, but are prone to arguments and are always dissatisfied with each other's performance. In the fourth stage, the two finally got used to each other, and the roadmap in their hearts became clearer, more tolerant, and tacit. They held hands directly and walked side by side. Patty and Allen admitted during the consultation that they were at the intersection of the second and third stages, confused about the future, and always harboring disappointment towards their partners.
There are 168 hours per week, for 3 or 4 hours, to communicate with your partner and become your exclusive time. When communicating, each other must be honest in expressing themselves, but there should be no emotional exaggeration or complaints about the other party's insufficient actions. Try to analyze where you are lacking and why these problems occur. If you feel a bit awkward speaking or unable to express yourself clearly, it's best to write it down. One is the convenience of speaking, and the other is to avoid embarrassment.
Men need trust, women need care. Husbands must remember to correctly understand their wife's thoughts and intentions when discussing emotions, and provide timely and appropriate support and assistance. When women face pressure, they often feel confused, nervous, and easily emotional. At this point, she must speak up and vent. At this point, the husband should listen quietly and provide timely comfort and encouragement, which can greatly benefit her. For a wife, when a husband is silent, it is necessary to understand his condition and emotions. In addition, men have a strong appearance, but due to their many fragile hearts, wives should know their husbands better and not force them to preach. If they want to transform them, sometimes they should say to them that you have done well, and I am very proud. This kind of encouragement will make the husband full of confidence and also be grateful to the wife.
