To build a happy marriage, we must take everything into consideration. It is not possible to have only material basis and emotional basis. We must combine all the factors involved. In addition, couples need to lay four "cornerstones" to ensure a lasting marriage.
The first cornerstone: understanding
In the decades of marriage life, understanding is the most rare, understanding is the most precious, understanding is the most lovely, and misunderstanding is the most tragic. It is impossible to unify everything between you and your husband, so it is inevitable to quarrel. Because of emotional excitement during the quarrel, sometimes they will even speak foul words, say "too much" and do "too much". This requires us to understand each other's mistakes, and to affirm each other's merits or achievements, which is a tonic for warming up the relationship between husband and wife.
The second cornerstone: communication
With regard to family decisions, no matter how big or small, no matter whether it is about family decisions, or your own personal work puzzles or plans, you should not be the sole arbiter. Instead, you should communicate with your husband in a friendly manner to create a harmonious and democratic family atmosphere. Autonomy or self-discipline are very detrimental to the development of the relationship between husband and wife.>> Couples need to integrate, not transform
The third cornerstone: trust
Any intimate relationship needs to be based on trust, especially the relationship between husband and wife. Mutual trust between husband and wife, based on the principle of mutual respect, is also the premise of long-term love. When you decide to go through the second half of your life with your beloved, you also choose to trust him. The most undesirable thing in marriage is mutual suspicion, which is made out of nothing, and you can't check your husband's mobile phone, chat record, e-mail, etc. casually. Doing so will only hurt each other's feelings, even make him tired of you, and finally walk away from you.
The fourth cornerstone: consideration
Men look strong on the outside, but sometimes they look like children in their bones. They are also like women who feel depressed at some times for no reason. At this time, use your gentleness to understand your husband. When he is in a low mood, if he is not willing to tell the reason, you should not go to the bottom of the matter endlessly. At this time, you can just stay with him, and your husband must feel your silent support for him.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)