The relationship between husband and wife should be firm as a rock, without any flaws and gaps. This requires deep feelings as the foundation, strong love for each other, and common maintenance of harmony and happiness. However, most couples find that in their long marriage life, the taste of love is slowly passing away and the feelings are gradually drying up. At this moment, couples should hurry to "make love", use all reasonable methods to maintain the concentration of love, and let the relationship get back on track. How to "make love"? Please remember the following five truths.
The first truth: criticize yourself first
The contradiction between husband and wife is inevitable, and it is not easy for women to let men listen to your criticism calmly. So we must first criticize ourselves for mistakes.
In a couple's argument, no matter how correct your views and ideas are, you can't change the other party's mind. The best way is to put forward your opinions in a gentle manner from the side or tell him that you have made similar mistakes when blaming him, and then blame him again, so that the other party is willing to accept your advice.
The second truth: proper praise
Warm words can always play an unimaginable positive role between lovers. So we suggest that both spouses should encourage and praise their spouses. Because if you use criticism and blame to improve your relationship, it will actually destroy your relationship.
However, blindly praising and encouraging is also detrimental to the relationship between husband and wife. One party's "mistakes and shortcomings" should be criticized, otherwise it will be difficult to correct. How to criticize? Psychologists found that the ratio of praise to criticism of 5:1 can keep the relationship active and healthy, and the spouse is also the easiest to accept.
The third truth: euphemistic persuasion
This is not to say that persuasion between husband and wife must be effective. So we must master certain skills when persuading each other. It is normal for couples to have different views on some issues. How can you let your spouse agree with you? Psychologists have found that when couples talk, they should not put forward their different opinions at the beginning, which will easily lead to vicious quarrels.
But using euphemism, such as entering TA's point of view first, then finding problems together and solving them, is much more reasonable and can avoid the deterioration of contradictions.
The fourth truth: overcome hardness with softness
If you have enough knowledge of men, you will find that even the men who look "feminine" still show their own characteristics at the critical moment. Most men are stubborn and opinionated. They are not good at compromise with others and "prefer to bend". Therefore, the use of "hard methods" often fails to achieve the goal, sometimes complicates the problem, and even causes conflicts and disputes if not properly handled.
So generally speaking, men like women to play coquetry, which makes them feel the honor of "big man". Therefore, acting spoiled can not only make you achieve your goal, but also stir up the ripples of love and the waves of love. How can you have the heart to hurt her and refuse to meet her demands in the face of the charming and weak wife "Big Man"? Only obedient.
The fifth truth: happiness in body and mind
When it comes to physical and mental happiness, we must mention sex. It can give couples the fullest and most happy experience, not only physical happiness, but also inner emotional comfort. If sex becomes dull, then we should hurry to save it and use all kinds of tricks and methods to make it "fresh" again. It is recommended that couples and friends use more formal sex goods, such as the magic weapon made by LELO: TIANI 2, which can bring unprecedented extreme pleasure to women, and also allow men and women to enjoy sexual pleasure together. It is definitely the first choice to increase sexual pleasure.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)