A Hong Kong organization has reached a conclusion after conducting an extramarital investigation, and some people have also verified the conclusion on QQ groups. Forty percent of netizens admitted that they had a heart attack on colleagues of the opposite sex
Ninety percent of extramarital affairs come from the office
To this day, many companies still explicitly prohibit office romances: in the UK, a quarter of companies require employees to sign "love contracts" that do not discuss office romances; In Japan, office romances are labeled as' unrequited 'in horror. But recently, the latest survey by Hong Kong's Caritas extramarital affairs support service shows that office romances are still on the rise, and 90% of extramarital affairs come from the office.
There are two main characteristics of office romance
The survey conducted by the agency shows that there are two main characteristics of office romance: firstly, before the occurrence of an office romance, there was no significant emotional rift in the marital relationship between one or both parties; This also indicates the second characteristic of office romance, which is not intentional at the beginning, but gradually develops from mutual affection to romance. However, when an office romance occurred, the parties realized that it was already very difficult to get out halfway.
40% of netizens have favoritism towards colleagues of the opposite sex
How credible is the conclusion that 90% of extramarital affairs come from the office? Yesterday afternoon, in the "Emotional Afternoon Tea" QQ group, reporters conducted an investigation into this matter
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According to the survey results, aside from the moral element of extramarital affairs, over 70% of netizens showed a tolerant attitude towards "office romances".
About 40% of the 30 married netizens admitted that they had had a good impression of their colleagues of the opposite sex, but this kind of impression did not reach the point where they had to take action; 30% of people said "if such a relationship is exposed, they will be embarrassed".
In the survey, it was also found that the extension of working hours and the increase of work pressure are important reasons for netizens' 'heart pounding' towards their colleagues, and convenient online tools such as QQ and EMAIL have become the preferred communication tools for office romances to hide things from the sky and spread love through eyes.
The party involved said
Office romance ruined my marriage
Narrator: Bi Xiaoyue, female, 28 years old, clerk.
Due to an office romance, for a period of time, Bi Xiaoyue was caught between her husband and her "blue face confidant", facing a dilemma. But in a phone call to the reporter, she made it clear that she regretted this office romance.
Bi Xiaoyue said that during that time, in order to alleviate her sense of guilt, she played the role of a virtuous wife and mother at home. Her husband had always been obedient to her, "we didn't even have the opportunity to argue. So, it was unlikely that she would get divorced, but because her office romance was discovered by her husband, her obedient husband ultimately ended her three-year marriage.
It's easy to fall in love, but it's too difficult to get out of it
Narrator: Hu Ke, male, 38 years old, engineer.
Hu Ke's office romance partner is his intern girl. During the three-month internship, he was the most patient teacher, while she was the best student to learn. On the nights when they work overtime at work, they work hard together and eat snacks and night beer together at the food stall. Hu Ke said, "It feels like we're back in our first love in college, so we unconsciously got together
But now he has a headache, and the intern girl is "too clingy. I wish I could spend 24 hours watching her, so it's best to marry her now. I can't get divorced, but I'm worried that she's young and not sensible, and she's hot headed and doing something foolish
The popularity of office romance stems from blurred character awareness
Office romance itself is correct, but engaging in office romance outside of marriage is not worth advocating. To bypass office romances, role awareness and self-confidence are crucial. Firstly, it is important to know what one does in the organization, what are the standardized communication and reporting relationships, and what are the core competencies for one's job competence
Secondly, it is necessary to have strong and stable self-confidence, and have a positive and objective evaluation of oneself. It is not easy to easily confuse emotions, let alone mistakenly believe that this disorder is the unlimited recognition and acceptance of oneself by superiors, resulting in a serious emotional asymmetry state, and ultimately can only end in embarrassment and disappointment.