Sexual Health
Eight years after my lover and I had an affair, my husband also found a widowed woman to have an affair
I am 38 years old this year, my husband is 39 years old, and my daughter is 16 years old. We have been married for 17 years. About ten years ago, I had an affair. I chatted with a male netizen online, and then met. After spending some time together, I had a relationship. My netizen and I are not in the same city, but we are not far away. It's a forty minute drive from each other. He and I have been together on and off for eight years. In the past year and a half, we have completely broken up. My boyfriend is 18 years older than me, and I also know that he and I are not single minded when we are together, one lover here and one lover there. Later, I couldn't accept it. After quarreling with him, he said that I was not qualified to manage, and only my wife could manage me. In a fit of anger, I called his wife to expose him. After his wife learned about this, he also told my husband about our relationship. From then on, he decided to completely want to separate from me.
Before, my husband was particularly kind to me, and after knowing this, he didn't blame me much. He still treated me as always. His kindness to me can be said to be that of Yi Lai stretching out his hand to open his mouth. I also feel sorry for my husband, I belong to the humble bar. At that time, I felt that I didn't love my husband, but I loved this lover very much. But I knew this lover was unreliable and he wouldn't marry me. The main thing is that I still feel that my husband is too kind to me, and there is no one in the world who is as kind to me as he is.
However, last year, I discovered that my husband also had a lover outside, and I discovered their chat records. Later, I asked my husband if he didn't admit it, so I directly broadcast the phone to Xiao San, and the woman readily admitted. That woman is widowed and has no other half. She said if you don't want your husband, I'll take him. This incident was a bit unexpected to me, because I couldn't see that my husband meant to betray me. He always treated me with obedience. Later, I continued to ask my husband, "What do you really want to do?"? He said he still wanted me to have a relationship with this family, and never thought about having a relationship with that woman. "But the woman said that your husband doesn't want you anymore and wants to live with her, and she also said that she has cried many times in front of her.". In fact, my husband has cried in front of me. I really don't know what to do?
"My husband is now telling me to let go of this matter, and he also said that if we cheat on each other once, it's even. Let's not pursue each other.". "But I can't live through this now. They've been together for two years, and I feel very tired. Am I too selfish?"?
reply:
1. What is the funniest and most hateful thing in this world? It's nothing more than a thief shouting to catch a thief and a crow falling on a pig's back can't see themselves black. "You've been cheating on your husband for eight years, and you've been cheating on yourself. What qualifications do you have for your lover to be loyal to you?"? Are you crazy or sick? I haven't seen anyone like you before. Since I know how to be cheap, why should I do something dirty? It's almost speechless. I'm not sure if your letter is an expression of pain, or if you really know you're wrong.
2. In fact, you originally had a husband who cherishes you very much, and you should have given him the same value in return. However, his love is somewhat humble and cowardly. And you just ignore it and do something that's easy to be bullied. In the end, what did you gain? "It's just the revenge of the lover and the crazy revenge of the lover who doesn't want to be wearing a green hat. You don't have much happiness in the end, but instead, you are trapped in a painful situation.".
3. How can I say that you are really too greedy and selfish. "It is entirely your own fault that led to such a result today, and you have to pay for the entire journey for yourself today.". You, facing your former self, really don't deserve to have such a good husband. Now, if you can fully awaken, it may be too late. After all, your husband still chooses to continue to accept you, even though he knows you have a terrible past. However, through your respective interpretation of the disgraceful life, it is once again verified that both of you and your wife are people lacking positive energy, unable to maintain their own integrity, and both need to constantly come to the wall for self purification. Practice well, otherwise, you are not worthy of a happy life, nor are you worthy of holding hands with a happy marriage relationship.