Domestic couples often encounter sexual misconceptions, which are essential for a harmonious sexual life

The traditional Chinese concept teaches women to be reserved and even constrains their sexuality. For wives who are positive in their marital life, they have high expectations for the role of sex, mainly manifested in the following aspects.

High expectations misconception

Some wives do not understand men's sexual psychology and psychological characteristics, mistakenly believing that men must be proactive and urgent at any time and under any circumstances. Therefore, when the other party is physically and mentally tired or does not provide sufficient visual and psychological stimulation, feeling that the husband does not want to have sex is not caring for oneself, is a dilution of love, and even has an ulterior motive.

Some wives have a high demand for emotional communication in sexual life, but they disdain or are not good at expressing and communicating, resulting in unspeakable troubles for themselves. The husband is also confused, which makes the wife feel that the husband does not understand their heart and is easy to outline as "not truly love" and "men do not understand love".

Some wives are not good at distinguishing between sexual life and daily life in marriage, and do not understand the differences between the two. When a husband performs well in sexual life, the wife mistakenly assumes that he will inevitably be a model husband in all aspects of daily life. If there is a slight difference, the wife will complain about the "tenderness in bed".

The existence of the above three misconceptions about sex not only affects the understanding and pursuit of harmonious sexual love by both spouses, but also endangers the survival of the marital relationship. It is worth pointing out that although these three sexual concepts exist among wives, as husbands, it is their responsibility to help wives step out of misunderstandings and share sexual joy.

Devoting oneself to the misconception

This first manifests as a lack of sufficient understanding and understanding of one's physiological structure, function, and response. In recent years, with the popularization of family planning and women's health care, wives' knowledge of contraception, pregnancy and women's diseases has increased a lot than in the past. However, due to the limitations of traditional customs, more than half of wives still do not know what women's most sensitive sexual parts are, and 40% of wives do not know or can not tell what women's Orgasm is like.

Is it difficult to obtain sexual knowledge at this time? No, although middle-aged married women occasionally privately discuss sexual life, the vast majority of them comment on how their husbands are doing. Few people talk about actively learning sexual knowledge, and women who can use scientific knowledge to filter out privately circulated information (mostly false) are even rarer. Why feel needed but don't learn? One of the main reasons is that many wives believe that since I have fulfilled my duty of dedication, he should take on the responsibility of promoting harmony, and in case of any problems, it is none of my business. Some wives simply say, 'This kind of thing is all about meeting a good husband.' Others elevate it to 'the fundamental problem is transforming men.'

This pure concept of dedication may at least bring several negative consequences:

1. When encountering a husband who is rough or even sexually abusive, the wife lacks both the inner motivation to resist and the knowledge and methods to promote change.

2. When there is a general disharmony in sexual life, the wife is prone to excessively blaming the husband, which can exacerbate the conflict.

3. Even if sexual life goes smoothly, a wife who simply dedicates herself will find it difficult to experience joy and value, and instead will develop indifference and estrangement. This naturally exacerbates the feeling of poverty, ultimately forming a vicious cycle.

4. Even if it is more harmonious, the wife may lack the internal motivation to continuously improve and improve, which can easily cause psychological fatigue on both sides in the long run.