Recently, I have been thinking intermittently about what it means to be a middle-aged man. Is it a symbol? A necessity of standardization? Or what kind of thing? The origin is that some time ago, a little girl told me that men of your age cannot be trusted!
I was surprised and asked why?
She told me that I had dated several older men who were all unreliable and ended up cheating!
So it feels like from the perspective of women in the 20th generation, men in the 30th generation have the so-called original sin of being absolutely untrustworthy.
I agree, it's probably hard for anyone to easily forget being hacked; It is also understandable to transfer such emotions to a wide range of ethnic groups and turn them into so-called stereotypes. Okay, I admit I don't think this stereotype is very fair and very annoying; But perhaps the reason why ethnic groups are ethnic groups is because they have some similar commonalities? So recently, I have been seriously thinking about what happened to men in the thirtieth generation. Of course, I couldn't ask my other friends and classmates, so I had to daydream about my own meager understanding.
Not to mention anything else, the first thing that made me think is, is it related to age? From the perspective of a man who is truly in his thirties, I don't have much confidence to say that cheating or falling in love with someone else will never happen to me in the future. At least I dare not swear as confidently as I did when I was in my teens or twenties. Of course, one of the reasons is that after following my body and mind for so many years, I have a clear understanding of what men say. For you, I can definitely resist temptation or love you forever without changing my heart. Such words are so superficial and ignorant. When temptation does not occur, everyone firmly believes that they can control it, but when the truly powerful kind of attraction appears, it may be difficult for men to truly ignore it.
But on the contrary, with the law of diminishing marginal benefits in economics, at this age, unless there is really no previous social experience, the influence of thirty generations of men on physical desires over rational decision-making has reached a certain balance. Even if there are physical infidelities caused by temptation, I always find it difficult to make a man of thirty generations emotionally cheat in a long-term relationship. In particular, the marginal cost of falling in love will not be reduced because of more talk, or even increased under specific circumstances. Do you think that emotional relationships will only become more stable with age?
Of course, it's also possible that I'm just thinking too rationally, maybe? On TV or in movies, there is still the middle-aged Ojisan who has a bald head, a big belly, and always covets his youthful body. What kind of character to play, such as a streetcar pervert or a lecherous supervisor, who is simple in mind but annoying.
Speaking of it, perhaps we were unconsciously classified as belonging to the same ethnic group as these characters by little girls?
But when it comes to it, sometimes I actually envy such characters. The stereotypical man who pursues sensuality seems to focus only on the most superficial things. But superficial things are actually the easiest to obtain. If a person has small ambitions and only demands the most superficial things, and does not think about any spiritual things, it may be easy to be happy and satisfied in daily life instead? Aren't we the most miserable middle-aged men who, although not like this, are classified in the same category? It's not easy to be happy (because of superficial things), but people also think that middle-aged men should have such a simple mind. Think about it, do you really think it's a headache?
The meaning is that as the number of people who come into contact with women increases, the shock, emotion, and influence that subsequent temptations can bring will decrease accordingly. If we use a more realistic way to explain it, it's like eating candy when you're craving, the first one is delicious, the second one is also good, but when you wait for the 20th one, the satisfaction is much lower than the first one. The benefits achieved decrease with increasing consumption, and even negative marginal benefits may be caused by nausea due to overeating.