Concept change: marriage "medical treatment" is quite fashionable
The independent treatment room, comfortable seats, pink wallpaper, soothing music and fragrant flowers make it feel more like a coffee shop with an emotional atmosphere. This is the impression left by the "marriage hospital" located in Zhongbei Road, Wuchang.
Wei Mingzhen, founder and chief marriage and family counselor, said that in today's society, many people are often at a loss when they encounter marriage problems. Since last year, he has started to establish this "marriage hospital".
By analyzing the marital problems of the counselors, it can be found that the main reasons for the marital crisis include: lack of understanding of marriage by one or both spouses; Don't know how to manage marriage; Men are too stressed to be understood; They have high spiritual requirements for marriage. The direct reason for marriage problems to come to "see a doctor" is that the man has extramarital affairs. The man's age is mostly between 36 and 45 years old, and his career is small and has a certain material foundation. Most of the patients who came to the hospital were women.
It is reported that the "Marriage Hospital" provides services such as reconciliation of marital conflicts, reconciliation of kinship, matchmaking and remarriage, persuasion of third parties, and trial divorce. So far, more than 100 people have successfully reconciled conflicts and repaired the wounds of love and marriage.
"In the future, we will also expand our business scope, carry out online marriage training, open college students' love courses, and carry out counseling for college students' love." Wei Mingzhen said, "Now families are prone to emotional crisis, and marriage counseling gradually has a market demand. Developing different treatment solutions for different marriage problems can protect the emotional interests of the parties, and reunite families facing emotional crisis."
"Flash marriage" era: there is a big market for marriage diagnosis and treatment
Can marriage counseling save a marriage in crisis? The reporter learned a successful case from this "marriage hospital".
Five years ago, Qingqing and Dawei established a love relationship, and soon married. After less than half a year of marriage, Dawei had an affair and didn't go home for half a year. Qingqing entrusted the "Marriage Hospital" to help.
Through communication and understanding with the two parties, they were given psychological tests. "Doctor" found that Dawei and Qingqing have very different understanding of marriage. Qingqing feels that her husband still loves her, so she insists on saving the relationship. However, Dawei believes that he is more responsible for Qingqing. So when expressing, he always uses "should" to be good to her instead of "think".
Experts suggest that Dawei move back to live for three months. Both husband and wife put aside what happened in the past and treat each other sincerely. After three months together, Dawei and Qingqing feel the warmth of each other again.
Wei Mingzhen said that the case was representative. The man married for the sake of marriage, but did not bring love into the marriage. The woman is just the right marriage partner for him. In addition, their expectations of marriage are different, so the man has an extramarital affair.
Wang Yue and his wife are typical post-80s couples. They married after graduation from college, but after marriage, they often quarreled over trifles. Wang Yue said that in fact, the quarrel was all about trivial matters, but the two people were unwilling to give in because they had no children and were considering divorce.
Wei Mingzhen said that some young couples are unable to adapt to the role change and psychological changes after marriage because of their lack of understanding of marriage life. After problems occur, if they do not get "help", they are prone to "flicker".
A person in charge of the Social Affairs Department of the Civil Affairs Department of Hubei Province believed that in the past, the couple wanted to divorce, and both units and civil affairs departments would mediate, and it would take three months to go through the divorce procedures, giving a buffer period for divorce. Now, as long as both parties agree, the civil affairs department must go through the divorce procedure, which greatly increases the possibility of divorce for those whose marriage is in crisis. If someone "helps" and "mediates", they may not divorce blindly.