For everyone, falling in love is a relatively pure feeling. After falling in love for a long time, it is time to get married. When men talk about getting married, some men are afraid of getting married. Let's take a look at the reasons why men don't want to get married:
"Bad reasons" that men always want to avoid in the palace of marriage
After falling in love for a long time, it is natural to discuss the topic of marriage. However, men are always fooling around and perfunctory, just not making a clear statement. Why on earth is this? Fear of marriage? Let's take a look together.
1. Fear of marriage
"A man who has been in love for a long time is not willing to marry you because he doesn't love you enough. It may be because he has a fear of marriage and doesn't have the mental preparation to enter it.".
In modern society, the divorce rate has soared, and people no longer trust marriage. In the past, I thought marriage could last forever and keep the other person around me, but now various temptations abound, and both men and women can't resist the temptation to cheat. Sometimes men start to fear marriage when they see their friends getting married and leaving.
2. Not prepared mentally
Don't think men will get excited when you suddenly say they're getting married. "Your sudden remark is like a sudden attack on a man.". "Love is different from marriage. If a man wants to get married, you should give him enough mental preparation and not try to surprise him.". Otherwise, men can easily be scared away by you.
Before you propose to marry him, you might as well give him a little more time to prepare mentally, such as often mentioning someone else's happiness after marriage around him, giving him a hint, and by the way, exploring whether he is prepared for marriage.
3. Fear of commitment
Don't think men are brave enough, in fact, men are also cowardly. Many men are afraid of commitment, because they are afraid of taking responsibility for their commitments. The cells that don't want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, rooted in male genes, with the difference being that some men have more and some men have fewer.
Marriage means commitment, meaning that you should be good to this person, treat her well, and be with her for the rest of your life. This commitment is too long-term, like a shackle that binds him. Men don't want to spend their entire lives so quickly.
4. Afraid of changing their life style
People are not willing to change their accustomed lifestyle. If you don't understand, look around at colleagues who complain about their work every day but still haven't changed jobs. "Because we have been used to it for many years, it takes some time to readjust to a sudden change, and many people don't want to casually change their lifestyle in this way.".
Marriage means that the two people want to live together, and it is more likely that they will live together as a family. Problems such as mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and personal life have come one after another. "You have to adapt to the bad habits of the other person. In love, everything seems to be beautiful for the other person, but after marriage, it's not necessarily the same.". If a man has decided to change his lifestyle, he is ready to get married.
5. Don't want to give up the whole forest
Many men are very flirtatious. They can have many girlfriends and sexual partners, but they can only have one wife. Many men are not willing to let him give up the entire forest and enter the tomb of marriage. Although not many men like three wives and four concubines, it is an indisputable fact that marriage equals giving up the right to choose. If it were you, the whole street is full of boutiques, would you like to enter only one of them in your life?
A man would rather burden you alone than burden the whole forest.
6. Too much pressure
Love is a matter for two people. You can go out to eat big meals every day, you can go out crazy every night, you can be a moonlight clan... Marriage is a matter for two families. When you are in love, you don't look at your family situation, you don't look at your savings, you just focus on your feelings, and when you feel right, you're together. "But marriage is different, and you may value both parties more when they are in the right family and when they are suitable for being your wife.".
When you are in love, you don't have to bear too much, but after marriage, it's different. After marriage, you have to shoulder the responsibility of the entire family. Nowadays, most of the post 80s generation are only children, and you two couples have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of supporting four elderly families. This is a heavy burden, and the pressure is too great.
7. Don't love you
If none of the above are the reasons why your boyfriend doesn't want to marry you, then there is only one reason why he doesn't love you at all.
"People's sense of responsibility is getting lower and lower, and what used to be a one-size-fits-all is now like a laughingstock. Whoever says that means being old-fashioned.". If a man loves you enough, he will never escape. He will be more nervous than you, hoping to bring you into the marriage palace and make you the only one of himself. If he loves you enough, he will take all the responsibilities and love you for a lifetime.
The above is the reason why men don't want to get married. I hope it can be helpful to everyone. If you find out that your man is such a kind of bastard, I suggest you break up early and find your own happiness.