Q:
My husband and I have been in control of the rhythm from love to marriage. Getting to know my husband is not a coincidence. He is a client of my father, and his father has a good impression of him and introduced him to me.
Although he is seven years older than me, both my father and my mother believe that someone like me who grew up in their hands should find an older man, a more mature man, and a better understanding of women.
He really loves me, he is my parents' ideal son-in-law and also my ideal lover. I have always felt that I am both lucky and happy. I know nothing about love, but he inspired me. He transformed me into a woman and brought me to experience that feeling. The taste of love is really beautiful. I love him and cannot feel the days without him.
I would like to mention a detail about our honeymoon, but I was immersed in the great happiness of the newlyweds at that time and ignored it. Now I reflect again and again, and I should be alert at that time. We had just arrived at the hotel and there seemed to be some issues with the reservation. The agent may have forgotten to book our honeymoon suite. When we arrived, we found that there was no honeymoon decoration, so he went to communicate with the hotel. My phone ran out of battery when I played with it, so I crawled over to him and took his phone, intending to play some games. However, he, who was making an internal call to the front desk to confirm, quickly snatched it from my hand. His phone had been in my hand for less than a few seconds.
Later on, I didn't take this matter seriously. The two of them laughed and went to take a mandarin duck bath. He had a lot of experience in this field, and I enjoyed it very much. At that time, I didn't realize where his experience came from?
It wasn't until I got married that I noticed that his personal belongings were very taboo for me to touch, especially his phone. I still don't know the unlock password for his phone, and his laptop also has a password. He encrypts me everywhere.
Later on, as I integrated into his life circle, I gradually became familiar with his friend's wife and had a good time playing. The girl once told me while shopping that as women, we should be more open-minded. Don't worry about how our husband is outside, just love us when we come home. I don't understand what this means. If I asked her to explain it more clearly, the girl slowly revealed a little bit, saying that her husband and my husband both love to play and often play outside. She looked at me knowing nothing, so she kindly reminded me to be mentally prepared.
Teacher, I don't want to have such psychological preparation at all!! What is this? How old am I this year? At a young age, do I have to endure men spending time outside? I can never do this!
But on my husband's side, how can I make a request? What if he doesn't admit it? No, he definitely wouldn't admit it. Where are parents? What do I say? They have always been very satisfied with their husband and feel that he is very good
Answer:
You became suspicious because of your female friend's words, which led to a series of negative associations. No matter what the purpose of that girl is, it is not recommended for you to raise this issue and cause family conflicts without confirming the facts.
The atmosphere in which a person is located is very important, and those who are close to her are the ones who are red. Of course, you tend to lean towards the friends around your husband and be able to be upright and not inclined. However, if the girl's words are true, you also need to have measures and plans to deal with them. Obviously, the girl has a laissez faire attitude towards marriage, but you cannot accept it, so you need to be prepared.
Since you are still young, it means you have more opportunities to adjust your husband's past habits and behaviors that may have caused marital problems, such as his habits when he was single. Parents regard their children as treasures, and they are chosen by your parents for you. Don't easily waver in your feelings due to the words of outsiders.
Confirm if there are any issues with your husband. Does not disclosing your phone, computer, or other passwords have an impact on your marriage? Based on more details of your life, let our emotional counselor help you.