On the surface, men always appear fearless and don't panic in the face of anything. However, men are also men, and there are also moments of vulnerability, especially when they are in a state of sexual panic. Let's take a look at the five major sexual panics of men together!
Dr. Michael Schiller, a sexologist in Chicago, said: When something threatens their self-esteem, men tend to panic and fear, and sex is the foundation for men to establish and maintain self-esteem. So in sexual intercourse, if a man suddenly feels panicked and at a loss, it must be something you did improperly.
So, what usually triggers the button for male sexual panic, and how do you avoid this awkward moment?
I'm afraid you're not responding
Sexual love is the most intimate emotional and physical communication between lovers, a conversation that takes place both mentally and physically. When having sex, men always like to hear a few words of encouragement, or hear and see clear responses from you, whether it's your voice or body movements. If you remain silent and let him sweat profusely, as if setting him aside, he will feel that your silence is a form of protest, dissatisfaction, or carelessness.
30 year old writer Peter said, 'Sometimes my girlfriend and I have sex and suddenly don't make a sound. I think it must be because I'm not doing it well.'. So I started to daydream, not understanding where I was wrong, and then I completely lost my mood.
Some men say that when a woman's body no longer sways according to their rhythm, they feel scared, like desperately swimming in an unknown sea. 27-year-old teacher Mike said, 'Sometimes we choose a good posture and feel completely integrated with each other without reservation, but she suddenly stops moving. I feel very strange and just want to hastily withdraw.'.
Do you believe it? Sometimes it's because of your neglect that your man suddenly loses interest. Dr. Schiller said: In the depths of men's hearts, they are always worried about women who cannot satisfy themselves. If he cannot understand your reaction in a timely manner, he will immediately doubt himself. The best way is to express your feelings truthfully.
If you like it, just let out a happy murmur or lightly pat his shoulder. If shouting is not your style, then swing your body to his rhythm, just like jumping a waltz with his pace, and your rotation will be his source of motivation.
Menstrual phobia
No matter what men say, when they see blood, they immediately lose their sense. 25 year old welding worker Mark said, 'Once when I had sex with her, I noticed that she was dripping blood. She had just had her period, and it seemed like I had been hit hard. It just stopped working.'.
Dr. Schiller said: Many men believe that blood is not clean and is a harmful substance. If you are not sure how his reaction is, it is best to tell him in advance: "Dear, I have just had my period, do you think it is hindering?" He will definitely appreciate your frankness and avoid potential friction.
I heard about your past
Lying in bed, you have many things to share: telling stories, massaging, and eating ice cream. But don't tell him how great your ex boyfriend was in bed.
Jerry, a 30 year old scientist, said, 'Once I was with my girlfriend, she told me about her ex boyfriend who was very sexy and explained it in detail, even where she had a hemorrhoid.'. Why do I need to know this? Later on, every time I had sex with her, another shadow would appear in my heart, always feeling as if other men were stronger and more likely to please her than me.
You should have a conversation with him like a good friend or parent. It's enough to let him know that you've been in a relationship before, as for the details, just keep them in mind.
Don't let him touch your vital points
Most men like to kiss a woman's body, including the most private parts. Refusing him will only arouse his suspicion. 30-year-old filmmaker Jason said, 'Every time I try to approach her critical area, she always blocks me back.'. I am very injured.
Peggy explained: This is not surprising, men like to do things that make women novel. When a woman refuses to accept it, a man will feel that she still retains her most precious thing to him and refuses to give herself completely to him.
Whether you are embarrassed or emotional, you should choose the best way to communicate with him. Don't forcefully push him aside or refuse him outright, try to passionately touch him and naturally guide him to have sex the way you like.
Dawdle
Do you always find excuses to hide in the restroom and get makeup done on dates? Do you know what men think about this? Mickey, a 29 year old graduate student, said that on her first date, she ran to the bathroom. I've been waiting outside for a long time, even after reading a magazine, she hasn't come out yet. I began to wonder what she was doing inside. Did you fall? Ice Girl 15 minutes later, and nothing seemed to have happened. From then on, everything I felt was wrong.
There is only one way to avoid making him think recklessly, whether you are dressing up in the bathroom or preparing, don't be too slow. And it's best to tell him what you're doing.