Post Date August, 06 2023
There are many specific types of love, which are related to personal values. What kind of life you aspire to usually falls into certain specific types of love.
Reason for not delisting
One late night, one of my fianc é es sought help in the group, saying that she received a letter from a stranger on a dating website that she wanted to meet. She found out that the man's basic conditions were satisfactory in all aspects, but she didn't know if she wanted to go back. When asked why she hesitated, she replied that there was a problem with the sentence "I have read your information and photos, I think you are pretty good, and I want to get to know you more" in the man's letter. Because my girlfriend's basic information is almost empty, she judged that the man was sending emails in groups, and inferred that he is not a serious person.
Last week at a classmate gathering, a male student with a successful career and a happy family proposed suggestions for change to several single girls on site. However, during the meeting, an elderly single male student interrupted and only believed that what he believed was' everything is fate 'was the truth. He also encouraged other single people to stick to their ideas and not make any changes.
Speaking of similar things, in blind date groups, there are often a lot of so-called strange things that men and women encounter during blind dates. Upon closer inspection, it seems strange to them that the other person's behavior or words are nothing more than exaggerating the facts. Regardless of whether the speaker intends to exaggerate the facts or not, they are simply not in line with the speaker's values. From the perspective of the entire society, they are considered reasonable. The so-called discussion ultimately turned into venting, rising higher and higher, and ultimately turned into a bitter and bitter crusade.
Such scenes are truly ubiquitous in life, and the protagonists of these scenes share a common trait: paranoia. From the above three cases, it can be seen that the degree of paranoia in the characters in the cases is higher than one layer at a time. Most of the older young men and women have paranoid traits to some extent, and once a person has these paranoia, they are like a trackless train heading towards a no return path, unless one day they suddenly awaken and take the initiative to brake.
So what is paranoia? Baidu explains this: they feel extremely allergic and hold onto insults and injuries; Stubborn and rigid in thinking and behavior, sensitive and suspicious, and narrow-minded; Faced with major problems, one often becomes impulsive, subjective and arbitrary, and goes their own way. Paranoic people are often stubborn and suspicious, self righteous, always centered on themselves, and always believe that they have been treated unfairly. Without a sense of responsibility, one should judge one's own interests based on whether they have been harmed, shift responsibility to others, never self-examine, and immediately seek to retaliate when criticized. If someone harms others, they should take it calmly, and so on.
Are you very scared after seeing it?
A paranoid person may have a distorted perspective and starting point due to their mindset, which often affects the relationships between family, friends, and colleagues, as well as their career development. The height of a person's career and the harmony of their family depend entirely on the fullness of their personality when they reach a certain height. Even if you don't say anything about this, do you really want to marry a wife or a man? If this goal exists, your paranoia will cut off countless possible paths for you. You will only repeat past unsuccessful experiences and continue to achieve unsuccessful results; You will use your standards to demand the other party, so you cannot accept people and things that are different from you; You will become increasingly stubborn and picky, and fewer people will like and accept you. Look, a paranoid or paranoid personality really doesn't have any benefits for the goal of getting rid of singles.
If you realize your paranoia, is there still time for change?
A few months ago, I got together with a graduate roommate I hadn't seen for a long time. She was surprised by my changes and asked me if I still remember some words I said seven or eight years ago. After listening to those words, I opened my mouth wide and didn't realize for a while that those paranoid words were from me. She said yes, your creed was Sandy Lam's lyrics: I choose absolute or zero, not some or the middle. When I was reading, my roommates had a lot of arguments against my paranoid theories, "she said calmly. I wished I could find a way to get in and be ashamed of my immaturity. But now, I feel that whatever happens to me and what strange people I encounter have its rationality because it exists. I will still be sensitive and angry, but those points are getting higher and higher, easily unable to ignite me anymore. What increases my happiness index in sync with HI points. Therefore, I want to tell you that paranoia can certainly be changed, even if it has formed paranoid Personality disorder, it can also be changed. The key to changing paranoia is actually in our own hands.
Older young people will regret every harsh word they have said after marriage, not only because of those words, but also because their once paranoid self is so foolish that it hurts.
Specific types of love
In fact, the difference in sexual orientation determines whether people prefer to fall in love with the same sex or the opposite sex. Others believe that it is the difference in love view that leads people to prefer to love with the same sex or the opposite sex. For example, some people who believe in Plato's theory of love firmly believe that only true love exists between the same sex, and that all that exists between the opposite sex is sex and childbirth.
Game style: Regard love as a game, not very focused, just hoping to win the "love game";
Possessive: a strong, exclusive, and dependent love that is prone to jealousy and emphasizes commitment and loyalty between both parties;
Realistic: This kind of love is very rational, very realistic and practical, only considering whether it comes from a similar family background, whether it is conducive to career development, whether it can become a good parent, and so on;
Altruistic: selfless and altruistic love, gentle, caring, loyal, and giving is unconditional, without seeking return;
One piece: Both parties work and live diligently under the common goal, just like Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao, Sun Yat sen and Soong Ching-ling;
Companion style: Both parties accompany each other, care for each other, and share each other's sadness and joy together. A more common type, similar to the integrated type;
Good friend style: Similar to an intimate friendship, it lacks mystery and impulsiveness, and is often developed from ordinary friends;
Romantic and passionate: romantic and affectionate love, based on appearance attraction to a large extent, is typical of love at first sight; Homosexuality: Both parties are of the same sex;
Old and young pairing: characterized by a large age difference; Oedipus love and Oedipus love;
Long distance or cross-border love (cross-cultural love) style: there are cultural differences in the environment and region where both parties are located;
Platonic love: pure spiritual love rather than physical desires between different/same-sex people, an ideal view of love (metaphorically referring to a highly romantic or impossible view of love).
Love is beautiful.
