After my husband cheated on me, it was very painful for me to divorce and not leave home

"Because my husband cheated and divorced for six years, but we have also been living together, and he and my third brother have close ties. Because he treated me well before and didn't want to lose my family, I have been playing dumb.". But today, six years later, perhaps due to the threat of the third child, my husband has made up his mind to leave home and live with the third child, because we are in the same unit and always see my husband.

At first, he ignored me. Anyway, when he was at work, he lived with me, just like a husband and wife. He stayed at the third family in the evening or on vacation. I know he still felt that I was doing nothing right, and I was also very uncomfortable. I also tried to persuade me to leave him, scold myself, and hit myself, but I still couldn't pass this hurdle. Perhaps one day when he gets married, I may just give up. I don't know what he thinks. He always says there are things that cannot be solved. He has feelings for the third child, but he can't bear to leave me and my daughter. He also cried bitterly.

Now we have been living like this all the time. I hate myself, but I can't persuade myself. Many times, I have persuaded myself to leave her, but my heart is still very uncomfortable. I scold myself for being cheap, but I just don't want to leave her. He just lives on both sides, immoral, and both know it's wrong, or just do it. Who can say it doesn't work, and neither of us can make up our minds to leave each other. What should we do?

reply:

As far as your husband is concerned, he has both ends of the house, and wherever he lives, he is certainly very happy. The reason why he couldn't bear to leave you and his daughter is, on the one hand, that he wants to maintain the kinship between you and your child. When he gets old and can't play anymore, he can return to your rear area, and you and your child can continue to accept him. At present, maintaining such a status quo is naturally in his interest, which can satisfy his greed and maintain his relationship with the third child without losing you and the child.

And now to see you, what are you doing with him? "You've changed from your former wife to a junior, isn't that the case?"? "Since you divorced him, you have no legal relationship with him, and then you continue to live together with him, which is called an illegal cohabitation relationship.". Do you feel dignified when you go on like this? Are you still an independent person? "You don't receive his respect at all. I'm afraid you're nothing in his eyes, which only encourages him to become more indulgent and greedy.".

A woman must live with her own dignity, live with dignity, live with her own spiritual subject, and not be influenced by others. Otherwise, she will lose the significance of living. Why do you rely on him so much? It's not how strong he is, but how weak you are and how weak you live. If you don't want the self-esteem that belongs to a woman, then go on living like this; If you don't want to be trampled underfoot by this man, then you must argue for yourself. He can't leave you, but you must leave him, otherwise you will lose, otherwise your marriage and divorce will have no significance.

Woman, your name is not weak, why are you so cheap? In the stage of enjoying love, being cheap is also a crime, but now that we are in the stage of being trampled on by our emotions, if we still blindly commit cheap, wouldn't it be foolish and self-defeating?