Sexual Health
After my husband and I divorced, he never lacked women around him. Do I still want to remarry him
We initially got a fake divorce because he went to Guangxi to do pyramid schemes, and many people asked him for money before getting divorced. After returning, I stayed at home for one year and went to Guangxi for over three years. I have been in Guangxi since my child started kindergarten, and now they are all in fifth grade. I want to have sex with him sincerely, but I dare not remarry him because he never lacks women around him. He has been wanting to come back to spend time with me recently, and there has always been a young girl in his twenties who has had an improper relationship with him. The condition for his return is to marry me. I said I won't get married. If you're willing to come back, I won't marry a man who has been sleeping with other women.
In fact, I am willing for him to come back, just want to have a very complete home, and also want him to be the father of the child. I don't know if his condition is to get married before returning, is it because he wants to share half of my property and then leave? We have been officially separated for over 2 years, and we have been divorced for almost 4 years. Can you see how I can handle this? Can someone like this bring him back? Will he have a good time when he comes back? Did agreeing to marry him fall into his trap of dividing his wealth in half, and then he left again?? thank you.
reply:
Hello, I'm not sure what you mean by fake divorce? If you have already gone through the divorce procedures, in principle, there is no such thing as a fake divorce. If you haven't gone through the divorce procedures and just two people are temporarily separated and not living together, this situation is actually a separation between you, not a divorce.
From your description, it can be seen that your husband has no legitimate profession, is not engaged in formal work, and even engages in illegal activities. Moreover, his private life is so chaotic that he is already a scumbag. Do you still have the need to reunite with him? Do you dare to accept such a man? He is already sleeping with other women, and thinking about it makes him feel nauseous. Can you still expect him to restore the integrity of his home? I don't think that's necessary anymore.
Moreover, you are also worried that he will come back and feel uneasy. Since you have no basic trust in him, don't have any expectations for him anymore. Although he is the father of the child, he is simply an incompetent father, and you must see this clearly. He has the right to come back and visit his child, but you should not easily reunite with this man. Such a man will only continue to hurt you and be even more detrimental to the child's growth. Therefore, let yourself be decisive.
Love your child well. The child is innocent, and not accepting this man again may lead to a complete family for the child in the future. However, as long as the child is with a mother who can give him positive energy, he will still grow up healthy. After all, children are not tools to bind marriage, and marriage is not about pursuing superficial integrity. What is more important is the quality of marriage and the harmony of the family. What nutrition and value does a nominal marriage have for you and your children?