I really, I'm not afraid of your jokes, and I don't know who to tell. I feel ashamed and embarrassed to lose myself! He has a wife and children, and we have been separated for over a year. In the middle, he called me and also called me on February 14th, but I really didn't pay attention to him. At around 11:20 pm on August 14th, he called me again, but I didn't answer. He called me downstairs and woke up the neighbor. He had to come into the house to talk, I drove him away, I scolded him for being a scoundrel, he took off his clothes and lay down to sleep. I threw his clothes at the door to let him go, but he still insisted on having sex with me!
The next day, I went to work and left at 7 o'clock in the morning. I don't know when he left, and I haven't been in touch with him since. A few days ago, I found out that I was pregnant, but I really went to buy medicine and drink it that morning, but the contraceptive method failed. Later, I sent him a message and he didn't want me to call him. He lied to me that he was in his hometown, and it didn't matter if he lied to me. He lied to his wife and lied to me. He said he would call me, but he blamed me for not paying attention. It was so careless. I really wanted to kill him at the time!
Two days later, I was doing business outside when I received a phone call from him at noon. I thought it was him calling, but it turned out to be his wife. His wife scolded me for being haunted like a ghost and pestering him for what? I said let her take care of her man, I have never harassed him before. Let her check his call records to see who harassed who! Her wife said, 'He said I called him and said I'm getting married, I can't bear to part with him, I miss him... The result is that her wife and I had a big argument on the phone, and we have to meet and fight each other!'! His wife angrily asked him, 'Will you contact me in the future?'? He said he won't be in touch! He has said this to his wife three times.
Last year, his wife also called me and scolded me. I really suddenly felt that this man... I can't express my feelings. I asked him for 5000 yuan and had a miscarriage during the Mid Autumn Festival. This is the second time I have had an abortion for him. I sent him a text message saying that in the future, I will die of old age and not communicate with each other. Everyone is well and don't harass me again. He has caused me not only physical harm, but also psychological harm. I am really afraid that he will harass me again in the future. I guess I can only report it to the police!
I admit that I have indeed had feelings and efforts towards him, and this time I have completely given up! Sorry to bother you, teacher, because I don't know who to tell. I've been holding my heart for so many days, and I've taken on all the guilt and pain. Maybe he's a scumbag, maybe I'm cheap, maybe I don't know... What should I do if I'm in pain?
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How can I tell you? This scumbag is enough scumbag, and you are also cheap enough, so ultimately, your pain is also self inflicted. Who makes you not clean yourself enough, and who makes you easily interfere with others' marriages? As a woman, if you don't have enough self-esteem and self-love, how can you possibly receive the respect you deserve in the eyes of others.
I'm sorry for your previous letter to me, but I don't quite remember. Anyway, I can understand your general situation. Whether you have been a mistress or become a mistress for a while, in short, you have played a very shameful role and provoked one of the world's most despicable men. You have also experienced a baptism of underground love under the banner of love. Despite the constraints of the secular world, you have been struggling to return to your own world, but this man does not want you to easily get off the ship of thieves.
Many times, this is the case. Extramarital love games are not something that anyone can play if they want, nor can they be played if they want to leave. They are far from as enjoyable and free to come and go as imagined, and their occurrence and development often require constant pain to come to an end. You said he caused you physical and mental harm, and that's right. These pains are the inevitable price you must pay for passively or actively engaging in extramarital affairs. For this, you need to reflect deeply on the pain and avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future.
Since you have made up your mind to cut off from the other party, then cut it completely and do not give the other party any chance to take action. He was able to make his actions successful, but it wasn't you who opened the door for him. For example, if he keeps making phone calls to harass you, you can either refuse to answer or choose to change your phone number; For example, if he comes to you in the middle of the night and lets him shout downstairs, you can either refuse to open the door for him or take the initiative to move; He can force you to have sex with him freely. It's okay for you to refuse or report rape to the police, but the key is that you didn't stick to the bottom line yourself, so you can't blame anyone else.
In fact, in all your resentment, there is still a mixture of unwillingness and reluctance to give up on him, because you are swaying and unable to extricate yourself in this deformed relationship, ultimately constantly hurting yourself. So, from now on, you must learn to be tough on yourself and that man, not leave any feelings or opportunities for each other, and not give yourself any retreat or compromise. If he dares to harass you again, just like you said yourself, decisively and forcefully take up legal weapons to protect yourself, and then live a good life with self-respect, self-love, self-improvement, and self-reliance!