Post Date April, 15 2023
Yao Guo and Ma Li are a middle-aged couple who have lived in harmony for thirty years, but their relationship has recently become very strained. The cause of the matter is somewhat absurd, it turns out that Yao Guo owes Mary money.
Since their marriage, Yao Guo and Ma Li have negotiated a property ownership system, where each person's salary and other funds are managed by individuals, known as the AA system of living. Everything that needs to be purchased at home, including the cost of having a child, will be shared equally.
They have been using this financial management system for thirty years, and there have also been incidents, such as odd expenses in certain aspects, and who will pay for the extra part has become a problem. The solution is simple: toss a coin. But Mary had bad luck, and many times it was her who bore the "extra" expenses.
This "loss" Mary couldn't afford it, so the two of them developed a new plan. If there was a need to pay extra money, neither person would take advantage of it by taking turns once.
However, there are still issues with the AA system of life for this elderly couple. The public institution where Yaoguo is located needs to raise funds, and each person must pay 100000 yuan, which will be returned one year later. He couldn't afford so much money, so he had no choice but to borrow it from Mary. After many years of marriage, there was still a bond, and Mary readily agreed. However, she still asked Yao Guo to write down an IOU and print it with her fingerprint, with a repayment deadline of one year.
The plan always fails to keep up with changes, and the company has not repaid Yaoguo's 100000 yuan after the one-year deadline, and will have to wait for an additional six months. Coincidentally, Mary urgently needed money at this time, but Yaoguo couldn't come out yet, so the old couple went to war. The situation got worse and worse, and Mary almost sued Yao Guo. Fortunately, relatives helped Yao Guo pay the debt, otherwise the old couple would have gone their separate ways.
Although the matter has passed, the relationship between the couple has already broken down. On the surface, they appear to be a couple, but privately they are no different from strangers.
AA lifestyle affects marital emotions
The AA system of life is a behavior of "private ownership of property" that occurs under the common will of couples. The most straightforward explanation is that one's own money is managed by oneself, and the expenses in life are evenly distributed between the couple.
On the surface, the AA system of life provides couples with space to retain private property, and neither party will constrain the other. But problems also arise. The freedom of money is equivalent to personal freedom in disguise. For example, both husband and wife earn a lot of money. Apart from sharing the fixed expenses at home, what is the remaining amount used for? Women who love beauty may go on a shopping spree, while men who cannot control themselves may become obsessed with money. Anyway, the other party has no right to interfere with their own financial expenses and can spend money as they please.
In this way, the situation of having a mistress and raising a small white face will occur. When these third parties intervene in the marriage, the couple's emotions will inevitably crack and eventually burst.
In fact, the AA system is not the ideal way for couples to manage their finances. Since two people are in love and compatible, why should they be so clearly separated? This is equivalent to drawing boundaries from life, or being together for profit. When emotions are mixed with benefits, no matter how long a couple lives, they will eventually fear two or three.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
