Be prepared to be despised, abused, criticized, and misunderstood, and write something for your future wife--- Preface
Future Wife:
Hello!
After experiencing the days of wind, frost, snow, and rain, and the changing seasons of spring, autumn, winter, and summer, I unconsciously have to face the reality of living a family. To jump out of the warm circle that was once nurtured by parents, to settle down from the unrestrained life of being alone, and to prepare all the necessities of life for two people in a house where one can freely roam, I think this is a home, right?
Since we are a family now, we will go through a lifetime of ups and downs, and walk the rest of our lives together with your hands. I want to put forward some of my requirements for you here, hoping it won't be difficult for you.
1、 I hope you are independent.
I demand that you be independent and not rely on me. As a man, I have a responsibility to support a family. I hope you have a stable but not tiring job yourself, with a salary of over 1500 yuan in this city, but no more than 3000 yuan. I hope you have a job purpose because I am busy with my career every day and don't have much time to spend with you. I am afraid that your spirit will be empty. I hope your salary is between 1500 and 3000 because it is too low and you will proactively lower the quality of life. The standard of 1500 can be used as your monthly allowance. I hope our future life will have quality assurance. Why don't we expect you to exceed 3000 yuan? As my wife, I don't want you to have the mentality of supporting a family. In my mind, if a woman's salary exceeds 3000 yuan, she may have to face almost all her energy invested in work.
To have the ability to handle things independently, I couldn't help but think of the advertisement where a man was waiting for a plane in the waiting hall. The announcer's voice rang out in the hall, "XXX, your wife asked where you put the key to the cabinet and if you were wearing the wrong socks. At least I don't want such an awkward situation to happen to me. Solve things independently, not all big and small things are handled by you. Dangerous tasks such as changing light bulbs must be done by me. From downstairs, I need to spend more money on anti rice work to have them deliver goods to my doorstep.
Your thoughts should be independent, not just following the crowd. You should go where the wind blows. At least you know what you like and have your own hobbies.
2、 Have a good mindset.
I started working hard for my career from having nothing. Whether you are rich or poor, you need to have an optimistic attitude. We live together, maybe you go out every day to catch the bus, or you may drive a Ferrari sports car to go shopping on your own. Regardless, you need to maintain psychological balance. Do not abandon it because of poverty, do not be proud of it because of wealth. While maintaining psychological balance, you should have a positive and upward mindset. Don't be satisfied with material life. In times of material scarcity, we should strive to move towards prosperity. If we become wealthy, we should pursue high quality. But we must learn to be satisfied, content with the spirit, seek joy in hardship, and enjoy happiness in joy.
You should have a noble mentality and understand what brand names are most suitable for your decoration in life. Know what makeup to put on for a ball, what clothes to wear for a wedding, and which outfit to match every type of jewelry you need. Know what drinks are mixed into cocktails to keep you from getting drunk, and make some surprising fruit salad when you are relaxing at home. The mentality of nobility is only for you to have, but not for you to be a noble person.
Because I hope you have a commoner's heart at the same time. Watching a disheveled beggar on the street, you will give him your pocket money instead of holding your nose and shouting insults at him, asking him to get away. When parents from rural areas come to our house, you treat them as parents, not as migrant workers. So filial piety is indispensable. Whether it's for your parents or for my parents, we should treat them with a childlike heart.
I hope you are not a person who cares about every detail. You won't scold and fight because you missed a few pounds or gave you 30 cents less money when buying groceries. Don't let your salary drop by 30 to 50 yuan compared to your colleagues this month, which will make it difficult for you to get along with your work. When you are dissatisfied, the truth can be explained, but no matter whose fault it is, you should know that money is something external. I'm not saying this to make you extravagant. It's definitely not easy to earn money, and the areas to save must be saved. There's no need to hold a banquet in a five-star hotel for face saving birthday. If the price of clothes is less than 5000 yuan, don't look.
3、 Speaking of hygiene
Actually, it's a bit unnecessary to say this. Women should love cleanliness the most. Every night, before going to bed, they wash their faces, teeth, and feet, not to mention taking frequent showers and changing clothes. These are all things that teachers teach elementary school students. Wash dirty clothes at any time. You can use a washing machine to wash them, but some clothes that need to be washed by hand should not be piled up and sent to a dry cleaner because they are afraid of damaging the skin on your hands. If you are feeling unwell or tired from work, I can take a shower.
Home hygiene is very important, and before we can even afford to hire a nanny, we need to do it ourselves. I can handle the tasks of cleaning the glass, mopping the floor, and cleaning the restroom, but don't let the dust on the household appliances sweep off to plant a pot of flowers, and don't let the oil stains in the kitchen scrape off to put in a trash can. Don't let the turbid air in the room push back when others open the door and enter our house.
We can do the above things together, but you still need to deal with your own health. I don't want to smell body odor and bad breath on you. Even if you use perfume, these things can't be covered, so if you have them, you must hurry to treat them. It's not that I have a cleanliness habit, it's that I really can't stand that smell.
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)