Post Date April, 15 2023
Newly married couples have just entered the marriage arena, and their understanding of many issues after marriage is relatively shallow. What kind of marriage model do you start to follow after marriage? It is likely to follow this as a template in the future. Today, let's follow the editor to see what the 10 things newlyweds should not do.
1、 Take work grievances home and spread them
Nowadays, social pressure is relatively high, especially among white-collar workers in metropolises. No matter what difficulties we encounter in our work, we should not bring this resentment to our other half after returning home from work, which may ruin the last haven of our family.
2、 The word "divorce" is often spoken about
Couples who are quick to mention divorce will sooner or later have their dreams come true. If you don't want this day to come sooner, quickly break this bad habit. Always give the other party a divorce reminder, and over time, the other party will think that you are ready to divorce.
3、 Whoever makes money is in charge
Some people believe that whoever makes money will be in charge of the family. This statement does not have the warmth of a family, and it must also be very dangerous for the family.
4、 The division of labor between husband and wife is too clear
Family is not a business, and the division of labor should not be so clear. Whoever has the time, who can do more, can have fun and harmony. It is not easy for men to have men, while women have women's difficulties. Only mutual understanding can allow marriage to continue in ordinary times.
5、 Don't negotiate, just be happy
Couples together inevitably encounter a bottleneck period, which requires two people to face problems together. "Family matters require two people to negotiate together. Those who only care about their own happiness and ignore the other person's thoughts cannot manage family relationships.".
6、 The division between the mother's family and the husband's family is too clear
Couples from different families are psychologically selfish in maintaining their own families, and newly married couples are prone to making such mistakes.
7、 Often compare other members of the opposite sex to each other
"People are different, and each person has their own characteristics. It is irresponsible to compare their loved ones to other members of the opposite sex, which can hurt one's self-esteem and especially hit others.".
8、 Frequently returning late without reason or staying out at night
"I am very busy at work and have a lot of socializing, so it is normal to come home late. Of course, this is understandable, but it is necessary to master the yardstick. In the long run, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife.".
9、 Disclose each other regardless of time or occasion
When a husband and wife have a quarrel, they must pay attention to the time and occasion to avoid hurting the self-esteem of the other party. Especially for women, men are born to love face. If they don't take into account the shortcomings of each other, it can greatly harm their self-esteem and face. Over time, men can't stand it.
10、 Ask each other according to their own living habits
After all, a husband and wife are two different individuals, and demanding places that require each other according to their own living habits can make the family full of gunpowder. "Two people cannot be the same in every aspect. You feel that the other person should follow your lifestyle, but for the other person, this is extremely uncomfortable. It is also very difficult to develop a habit that you have developed since childhood and want to change after marriage. You should know that it is difficult to change the nature of a person.".
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
