Post Date April, 15 2023
Many people have experienced or good friends have experienced: when there is a problem in the relationship, one party proposes to the other party not to contact for a few days, and each other is quiet and quiet. In fact, this is the application of disconnection method? Is disconnection really useful for emotional repair? Now let's talk about the importance of disconnection to sublimate mutual feelings.
Can let each other clarify their feelings. The relationship between lovers is no longer so comfortable, which means that there must be some problems between two people. Since there are problems, to repair this relationship, we need to find the problem, find the cause of the problem, and also need to find solutions to the problem.
Two people are together every day, which will let each other's thoughts interfere with their own real thoughts, and thus affect the objective judgment of the problem. So when two people are disconnected and each is quiet, it is helpful for both parties to sort out their feelings, and it is very helpful for the next repair of the relationship.
It can let us turn our attention to love. There are some contradictions and frictions between the two people, which will arouse our negative emotions. Driven by negative emotions, we can't help criticizing each other. Once the other party is around us, we will find an outlet for our venting and will vent negative emotions to the other party without restraint.
Especially when both sides feel that the problem is not on themselves but on the other side, then the blame between the two people becomes endless. If one party proposes to disconnect at this time, both parties will jump out of the pattern of quarrelling and blaming each other. Especially when they are used to having lovers in their lives, they will be at a loss.
They will realize how lonely they are without him and how good he was to themselves before. Even if he has a few words with himself, it is also happy. It's better than finding someone to talk to now. At this time, we will be full of the importance of each other and the good of each other. After disconnection, both sides will know how to cherish each other better.
Increase the distance between two people appropriately. Intimacy really needs intimacy, but intimacy also needs a certain distance. If two people are together 24 hours a day, and do everything with the other party, it will make both parties feel free, and this too intimate feeling will make people feel suffocated.
When two people disconnect, they have the freedom to do what they like, and they will experience what they can't experience before. After reconnecting, they also learn to do what they like independently and freely, which is beneficial to the healthy development of their relationship.
Disconnection is important to sublimate feelings, but it must be controlled properly, especially the time of disconnection. It must be controlled within the acceptable range of both people. If the time is too long, it will have the opposite effect.
