Post Date April, 15 2023
Q:
I am doubted by my wife every day. It's useless to explain it. I can't speak clearly about what she believes. It's really tiring. I'm a little afraid of her. How can I doubt this and that all day long?
My wife is most suspicious of my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. In fact, I met my ex-girlfriend one year after breaking up with her. I have talked about two of them in total. The ex-girlfriend's home is too far away, and the work is not in the same place with me. It is not easy to meet, and the relationship between the two people is also like that. I want to get married earlier, but the ex-girlfriend doesn't want to, so I broke up. When I met my wife, I made everything clear, But if my wife doesn't believe it, she likes to ask me, do you still keep in touch?
Originally, I had contact information with my ex-girlfriend. Later, I was so frustrated by my wife that I deleted it all in front of her. She was still not at ease, and began to suspect that people in my company could have taken a group tour with her family, but she didn't go until she asked for a leave. As a result, she began to cry at the first sight of the group photo, which meant that I was flirting with the female colleague on the side. What is the problem of photo capturing? It seems that my eyes are looking to the side. I don't know what to say, and I dare not tell my wife, because there was indeed a bag for female colleagues that day, but everyone who went out was colleagues. How could we help? It's a piece of cake. I feel very wrong to be so suspicious by the old lady.
Also, last Friday night, several of our colleagues decided to set up a bureau temporarily. Everyone had a meal and sang a song together, and went after work. As for the location, look at the nearby business district, where the family can go without waiting. Therefore, I just said to my wife on WeChat, and the wife called one after another, and didn't know where to eat with whom. I was laughed at by my colleagues. I was also angry at that time and went home without eating. So she was wordy and angry. I said that I was innocent and you didn't believe me. I might as well find another one outside to save you from finding trouble and saying that I have someone outside!
I said something wrong and angry, but my wife heard it. She sat down and confirmed that her doubts were true. I did have something outside, so I was impatient with her and ran back to my mother's house. My mother-in-law refused to give me a chance to see her. I'm helpless. How can I make my wife believe me? I really didn't do anything! Now I just want her to go home. For more than a week, I refuse to meet her, listen to my explanation, and accept no apology. I really don't know what else to do!
A:
In this case, the daughter cried to her parents, and your wife and family have accepted her unilateral statement. They are helping the family and are fighting against you.
At present, you can't come up with a solution that will satisfy their family. You can't get your wife back. The problem is, throughout the whole event, if your narration is not self-preservation, it is objective and true, then there is no reason for you to use compromise to save it again and again. Emotional correction and intervention must be carried out, otherwise your subsequent life will still be accompanied by a variety of doubts and worries.
It is known that the other party is suspicious and thoughtful. Skills can avoid triggering the negative thoughts of the other party. The same thing, different expression methods have different effects. The key is that you should understand how to describe your own experience and thoughts, so that she can feel more about sharing and being loved.
