Post Date April, 15 2023
True love is not as simple as touching your upper and lower lips and saying 'I accept all of you'.
There was once a girl who, at the age of 16, both of her parents passed away due to a car accident, and all the light of her life suddenly went out. But she quickly understood that her future life would only depend on herself. As the saying goes, 'You can't fight your father, you can only work hard.' She studied crazily and eventually got admitted to a medical school. Finally, she established herself and took root in that city with her excellence.
A few years later, she got married and had children. With almost perfect performance and the spirit of hard work, she became the backbone of a large local hospital. However, in a medical dispute, she was forced to take a "vacation". Being unfairly accused and idle at home, she almost went crazy.
Once, my son made a small mistake while doing his homework. She found an outlet to vent her anger, but he blurted out a long suppressed sentence: "You know how to handle me now, what about my daily life? Work, work, you know work
At this moment, her husband happened to come home from work and said, "Hey, what's wrong with you two?" "Look at your son! How did he talk to me! It's all your fault! You've spoiled him
Upon hearing this, my husband felt inexplicable and a little angry. He had just been scolded by the leader during the day, and why did he still suffer from this cowardly anger when he returned home? But he suppressed his anger and calmly said to his wife, "Alright, alright, everyone calm down. Wife, I know you haven't been feeling well lately. Let's have a good chat later, and now we all have a rest and take it easy
Upon hearing her husband's words, she felt as if something had touched her in the depths of her heart. She also knew that she had gone too far just now, but her husband did not blame her or throw the door away. Instead, he was willing to talk to her again, which she had never experienced in anyone else
Returning to the room, she heard her husband ask what had happened to the child, and then said seriously to the child, "Your mother is angry with you. You have been wronged, but you cannot talk to her like this. She is your mother, and also my wife! Please respect her!" Her nose was a bit sore from hearing this.
At night, after the child fell asleep, both the couple's emotions had calmed down. My husband brought a cup of hot water and placed it in front of her, saying, "I know that if something like this happens in the hospital, you must have a fire in your heart
That was everything I had earned so hard before, and now it seems like it all suddenly collapsed! I have become helpless again! Even my son doesn't understand me so much... "As she spoke, she seemed to start getting excited again.
Don't worry, don't worry. I can tell that your temper tantrum today is not just about medical trouble. It's actually about your past sense of insecurity coming back, isn't it? Don't panic, organize your thoughts, think about what's bothering you the most now. Seize that point, speak up, and let's discuss how to solve it together, okay
Her husband's words suddenly pulled her back, who was almost about to return to an emotional tornado. At her husband's prompt, she realized that her biggest concern was the destruction of her career, which brought her back to the despair of losing her parents when she was a child. She once again felt that deep fear.
After hearing these words, my husband said to her:
The evidence of this incident is very sufficient and beneficial to you. You will be fine. Besides, your business ability and character are there. I believe that this is what the hospital leaders value the most. Don't worry
Over the years, you have really been very, very difficult, and I can feel that you have been under a lot of pressure. You dare not stop and not be outstanding enough, but dear, you should know that you are not alone now! You and I, with this family, you are no longer that lonely little girl
My husband held her shoulders with both hands and nodded at her, his eyes filled with affirmation and conviction.
Thank you! I was too uncool tonight
It's okay! People are not sages, so you don't have to demand so much from yourself. I've always felt that you live too tense, your strings are too tight, you can't relax, and you don't like to talk to me about any worries. Just carry them on your own. Actually, I really want to help you and get close to you. Sometimes I don't have a good time at work, but I also need your support
She was once again moved by her husband's sincerity. Well, I was just thinking, I've been too immersed in my own world these years, ignoring you all
Leaning on her husband's shoulder, she felt as if for the first time in more than a decade she had been so relaxed, and a place in her heart seemed to suddenly open, with a light shining in
Just like any precious thing in this world, true love also needs to go through the sedimentation of time. Only when the days gradually fade, and in the midst of crisis and chaos, can its quality and quality be revealed.
When you are in a state of confusion, ugliness, and hysteria, when conflicts between you are imminent, a man who truly loves you will show you:
He is tolerant and accommodating, and can provide you with a corrective emotional experience;
He will protect you from further harm;
He is calm, composed, calm, and has a determination not to get caught up in emotional storms. He can call a halt when communication is not appropriate, which not only protects his own face but also your face, not letting both parties tear their faces apart;
He has a clear and firm approach to solving problems, not avoiding or avoiding them, which makes you feel cared for;
He provides you with the space to express oneself and is able to listen patiently; At the same time, it will not allow you to continue talking, sinking deeper and deeper in the strong emotional storm, but rather handing you a rule to help you regain rationality, which will bring you a sense of power and direction to turn the tide;
He knows you well enough, he can read the stories behind your emotions, hear those deep within you, and even better than yourself, he can understand what is happening in your heart. He will see your core pain points and needs, gently touching and comforting, hypnotically giving you a new perspective and new faith;
He dares to express his own needs and is not afraid to expose his helplessness. He has the ability to present his inner world to you, interacting and communicating with you at the depths of his soul rather than on the surface.
In this way, two people can transcend the trivial necessities of ordinary life, truly meet each other in the deepest emotional layers of fragility, not only achieving the coordination and combination of their interests, but also achieving a strong connection between hearts.
