Post Date April, 15 2023
There is a saying in marital life about the "seven year itch", which means that couples who are immersed in love will experience a downward trend in their love over time. In order to prevent obstacles and cracks in the relationship between couples, it is necessary to know how to increase intimacy. Only in this way can our love for each other last forever.
Common pursuit of career
Love, as a social emotion, is destined to be influenced by many factors such as social politics, economy, and culture, and cannot be isolated from the world. Love is the driving force of career, and career is the sublimation of love. There may not be many people who hope that their loved ones must become strong, but anyone with a sense of responsibility to society hopes that their loved ones will pay attention to society, have a strong sense of career ambition, and constantly pursue their careers.
Therefore, after marriage, couples spend all day loving each other and sealing themselves in small circles of personal families, and the temperature of love is difficult to sustain. With new goals in their careers, couples can deepen their understanding and overcome difficulties together through shared values and pursuits, which will bring opportunities for new emotional integration.
Add new fun
It is important for couples to share the same bad taste, which is a form of fun. In addition to work, study, and household chores, efforts should be made to add new content to family life and create a favorable environment for emotional development; For example, during weekend activities, one can choose and cultivate a hobby that couples share. This helps to reduce the feeling of monotony.
In marital life, constantly cultivating new pleasures for both spouses can help eliminate the dull feeling brought about by long-term life. It's like a child's parents always playing basketball with their child, and the child gets tired of it for a long time. Suddenly, one day, their parents play football with him again, bringing a sense of freshness. It is important for couples to share common interests and hobbies, and constantly cultivating new pleasures is the lubricant of marriage life.
Emphasize communication between spouses
Praising, affirming or reminding the other person, a approving look, a comforting smile, and a warm praise will all bring intoxication to the other person. Returning from an outing or giving a small gift on the other person's birthday can create ripples of love in their loved one's heart; The wife washes clothes, and the husband goes over to help; The husband sits at the desk and writes an article, while the wife brings a cup of hot tea; Before and after work, a gentle goodbye and a kind greeting can make the other party feel their position in their hearts and create a sense of satisfaction. There are various ways for couples to convey information and express their emotions, and seemingly insignificant small matters that can add a touch of tenderness and attention to their relationship as long as they frequently appear in family life. It is particularly important to note that after having children, the wife must not leave her husband "hanging out" on the side.
Leave space for each other
The combination of two sexes is the combination of emotions and life, not the dissolution of personality and personality, and neither side is a shadow of each other. Therefore, do not force yourself to be inseparable. Otherwise, just like constantly eating can make people lose their appetite, sticking together can also make people lose interest. The relationship between men and women can only be partially defined, with each party having their own friends and hobbies, and having more topics to discuss. When there is a separation, there is a moment of missing each other. Give each other a distance, a space, and let them yearn and wait with tenderness.
So, appropriate separation can increase the freshness between couples. As the saying goes, "A little farewell is better than a new marriage." Psychologically speaking, this is due to artificially creating distance, which gives each other a fresh and evergreen image in their minds. A benign effect has been formed, in a sense, without distance, there is no freedom, without distance, there is no attraction, and the spacing of time and space often increases the intensity of love.
More sense of humor
Only by understanding people can we promote mutual love. Faced with the complexity of social life, especially the trivial tasks such as pots, bowls, spoons, etc. in family life, sometimes it is necessary to have more courage to withstand difficulties and the ability to control life. Humor in the family can alleviate psychological stress, especially the humorous language used in marital life, which can often stir up emotional waves. Because humor is a symbol of perseverance, calmness, wisdom, and ability, and a mediator of family conflicts. Most people in the world have a natural instinct: they don't want to hear others criticize them.
Husband and wife are forever together, and it is even more important to have mutual understanding and tolerance. There is no perfect person in the world. The hardness without softness is another form of vulnerability. Any subjective impatience, resentment, or blame from either party between a couple can lead to feelings tending towards dullness and atrophy, which needs to be overcome.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
