Can disguised orgasm actually promote relationships between partners? Fake orgasm can also lead to true orgasm

In the classic American comedy film "When Harry Met Sally", there is an interesting plot: Harry thinks he is a strong man in bed who can satisfy women, but Sally doesn't think so. She says that women's orgasmic reactions can be faked. Then, she performed a beautiful bedtime scene in the restaurant where they were dining. This scene has become a classic, making men both surprised and afraid: it turns out that women can pretend to have an orgasm of immortality and death! How can I tell if she's really flipping or pretending in the future?

In different cultures, almost half of women admit to having disguised an orgasm. So the other half never pretended? I think the remaining women are cute scammers, "joked sexologist IvPslati." Every woman has at least disguised an orgasm in her life

It looks really troublesome: women are afraid of being discovered in disguise, while men are afraid of women pretending, which has suddenly increased the difficulty coefficient of sex several times! In fact, it's not a big deal! "In the eyes of Ive Pusladi, most of the time, women disguise their orgasms from time to time, especially if she knows why she's pretending. That's normal, there's no need to take women's faking orgasms so seriously!

Because of love, I disguise myself

Under what circumstances do women disguise orgasm? Deng Jiani said that it is often because he is particularly hardworking When she longed for happiness with special effort: He often stops midway and asks me, 'Are you comfortable? Are you happy?' If I don't answer with certainty, he will switch positions over and over again! In fact, sometimes it's just because of the environment or temperature! But I don't want to disappoint him. I start pretending, moaning loudly or gasping heavily, and sometimes pinching his arm with red marks. I think I should pretend to be quite similar, maybe sometimes my voice is too loud ……”

The essence of sex is the unity of body and mind: neither is indispensable. However, the joy of body and mind cannot always be synchronized. The situation of two lacking one often occurs: one moment is the former, while the other is the latter; Or at a certain moment, neither can be reached; But it is also possible that the two have merged again. That's why we say there's nothing more difficult to plan than orgasm. So, it will naturally emit a few corresponding moans!

Anna finds it difficult to imagine some women who have never disguised themselves as orgasms: "Can that be true? For example, my sexual life is very regular and fulfilling. But really, I often disguise myself: either I am tired and want to end the battle quickly, or I don't want to embarrass him, or I just want to try to find happiness... but I think it's really nothing." Lily said she often does this: This doesn't affect the happiness between my lover and me every time. I didn't tell him that I was pretending because we always confuse pretending to be orgasmic with being cold and heartless. Have you ever expressed admiration for a gift from a friend that you don't like? We only disguise ourselves because of love! "Yes, men are shaped by culture to use their sexual abilities to prove that they are men, Whether a woman receives sexual satisfaction has become a proof of whether a man is masculine or not. The disguised orgasm of a woman contains deep love, at least a huge goodwill.

A passionate response to his desires

The response to his desires is the most powerful aphrodisiac, which is a point emphasized by all sexologists. Not only because of love, but also because of a person's narcissistic complex: "I made him so intoxicated, I am really a good companion

Masquerading an orgasm is a passionate response to a man's desires. Under this satisfaction, there is an unconscious transaction between men and women: women must be happy in order to be cherished by men. Some women believe that if their bodies do not emit happy shouts as expected, then they should take responsibility for their bodies' anonymity and tranquility. Looking at movies, magazines, and novels nowadays, so many women can easily indulge in sex. If they can't do it, it's naturally their own mistake! Coupled with the fact that women add a lot of emotional and relational value to sexual love, it's natural for them to think of pretending to have an orgasm.

However, women also feel deeply guilty about pretending to have an orgasm! 26-year-old Nini said, "Yes, I can disguise, often disguise! Why? I'm afraid that once he finds out that he hasn't satisfied me, he'll feel hurt. But is this his fault? It's not! I dare not say many things out loud, I can't fully devote myself to sex." 29-year-old Ai Meng also had this opinion: "I feel guilty because I'm cheating 41 year old Nina felt even more deeply: "I feel that my moans and screams are important to my husband, which makes him feel strong. But I don't know if this makes him think he has superior power over me, and I don't know if he should never mention his true feelings just to satisfy him." But why can't he simply be himself? Why is it always necessary to satisfy men? What kind of role do we position ourselves as?

Sexologist Gonzaque de Larocoque analyzed the reason from a sociological perspective: our society advocates a value of "transparency in everything" between partners, believing that each other should be direct and frank at all times, and women are the first victims of this concept - we should say everything about ourselves, so when pretending to be happy during sex, it feels like lying, So I feel very guilty - in fact, the most fundamental aspect of sex is the order of privacy, which cannot withstand transparency. Ji Xuesong, a psychotherapist at Peking University Sixth Hospital, added: There is no need to give 'disguise' an emotional color that does not belong to it. 'disguise' means different things to different people and relationships. It can mean debugging or helplessness, caring or attacking, respecting or insulting. When discussing this topic, we should not forget the complexity and diversity of life

A beneficial theatrical performance

Women pretending to have orgasms can still make men worry, as if this happy episode has been misread as a lie and betrayal. I don't know if my girlfriend is also pretending... if she's pretending? Can't I satisfy her and need her charity?! This is too insulting! "Owen said, as a dignified man, he absolutely can't accept this!

It's not surprising that men have such thoughts, "said Catherine Blanc, a sex therapist, People usually believe that men have a duty to please women. While women enjoy this pleasure, they also acknowledge their strength and strength. If she is disguised and discovered by men, the world will be in chaos. However, since there are no external signs of female orgasm, how can men know if they have truly brought happiness to women? Therefore, there are performances that use moans and breaths to Women who satisfy men's desire to conquer, and their fantasies about orgasm are the source of inspiration for this kind of performance

In fact, disguise is not entirely a form of performance, it can even make women very excited themselves. This is because women's orgasm is more complex: it comes and goes, it rises and falls - women can pretend for a while, but not for a while. 23 year old Mary achieved her true climax in disguise: "The love of a woman's body is constantly changing. When I use language and breath to transform myself into a woman full of desire, it not only excites him but also me!" She said, the climax is like a train, and then roars!

Men are not completely ungrateful towards the pleasure and orgasm of disguise. If a man is quite confident in sex, or he can appreciate the kindness hidden behind a woman's disguise, it will give him the same satisfaction as a real orgasm - because a woman's disguise comes from her emotions towards him; whether a woman's disguise is done occasionally or consistently also determines how men feel about it, and most men won't mind the former, "said Ji Xuesong, Acting is also an important factor. All actors are disguised, but disguise can still bring people real psychological feelings, just like the tears of actors. It is both fake and real, and whether the audience can be infected and moved depends on the actor's acting skills. If the actor's goal is to move the audience, she will improve her acting skills. If she only wants to arouse your attention to the disharmony in sexual life, she will intentionally be violent Expose the elements of disguise Everyone intentionally exposed it, so next, let's study how to take it seriously!