After my husband cheated, he drove me to work in other places in order to stay with my mistress

Letters from readers:

After my husband cheated, he drove me out of town to work, so that he could continue to stay with me. He wouldn't let me go back and asked for a divorce. I agreed. Later, when chatting, he asked his thoughts. He said he wanted to divorce at the beginning. After I left for two months, he didn't think so. But he said he didn't want to divorce, but had to leave. He also said that my leaving meant giving up on him. But I didn't see his repentance at all. What did such a man think?

reply:

Hello, when a man betrays a woman, he clearly does not care about the relationship between husband and wife, but finally he always wants to find an excuse for himself, and will not admit that it is his problem, but must find a way to put the problem on his wife, so that he can feel at ease and deal with the mistress, which is your husband's hypocrisy. The real idea of a man's cheating is that the red flag at home will not fall, and the colored flag will float outside.

Letters from readers:

I remarried for nearly 4 years. The landlord knew him on QQ. After marriage, he left the provincial capital to live with me. In the downtown area of our county, I invested 170000 yuan, and he invested 90000 yuan to open a franchise cold drink dessert shop. Considering that he left his elderly parents and could not be filial and that he had no source of income, all the business income was deposited into his personal account in the provincial capital. During the operation of one year and two months, because of the large gap in social psychology, he often quarrelled. He asked me to pay back the 90000 yuan invested and left, and he received 90000 yuan and did not leave the money nor returned it to me, After I paid him 90000 yuan, I found out that the income was nearly 280000 yuan, with a profit of nearly 50%, instead of 30000 yuan he told me. Because I am a civil servant and I am afraid of being laughed at, I have been reluctant to divorce again. I can't afford all the expenses of my family. Now the shop is transferring 60000 yuan at a low price, and I have to ask him to pay the rent for five days after the transfer and 1200 yuan of water and electricity (the income is still his income). I lost 200000 yuan and went back to the provincial capital without any guilt. In life, my mother borrows ten yuan and also repays him. If the change of one yuan is less, she also asks me to return it. My family will pay for everything they eat in the store. Is this marriage worth keeping? What kind of feelings does he have for me?

reply:

Hello, friend. Through your numbers, it is enough to show that the remarried man you chose is not very good. He has so settled accounts with you and took advantage of you, reflecting his greed and selfishness. Is such a man still worth cherishing, and are you happy with him? And aren't you divorced? Why do you still think about him? You see that there is a problem with the way you know this person. How reliable can a person who is known by a QQ landlord be? It can be seen that you are more casual and blind when choosing your other half. I hope you can take a warning in the future.

In a word, through your talk, I think this man doesn't love you enough and is far away from you. What matters more is the interests of each other. Although the husband and wife can't get away from the interests conflict, it's meaningless to focus on the interests too much. In my opinion, you are not like a husband and wife, but rather like business partners.