Men and women are different. This sentence is so popular that even primary school students know it, but when it is applied to practice, it needs to be carefully considered. For the same problem, men and women may draw diametrically opposite conclusions by focusing on different aspects. In the process of dating, men and women have different psychological experiences. From the beginning of dating to the gradual determination of relationship, their behaviors are also very different. Do you know what men are muttering in their minds when dating?
Love at first sight
With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only need to work longer, but also the distance between their residence and work place is getting farther and farther. Some surveys even believe that the time for them to do whatever they want is only 22.3 minutes per day. Among them, women need 21.2 minutes to determine what clothes to wear; A man needs 18.7 minutes to trim his hair and shave. The real idle time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes respectively. Of course, the above statements are exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a time-consuming thing.
In order to improve the hit rate, 57% of men met their other half through friends, 31% met at bars or parties, and 12% chose to date their work partners. Once a man wants to approach a woman, most of them will take the initiative to invite her. It is not difficult to achieve this step, as long as it is not timid or high self-esteem, it should be achieved in a relaxed mood.
The remaining 1% will think of some unexpected ways. For men, the first date is very important, and there are not a few men who have the mentality of settling the problem once. If the first invitation is rejected, he will lose his confidence greatly, and may change a woman to try his luck. It would be wrong to think that men are all brown candy and have indomitable faith. Not every man has strong nerves and can withstand "devastation". They are also afraid of setbacks, fear of being ruthlessly rejected, and are prone to fall into the conditioned reflex of protecting themselves.
If the first date goes well, the man will think that the relationship between the two can grow well next. On the contrary, if the first date fails to impress a woman, then she will disappear and never hear from her. Because of the habitual assumption that there is no second chance, men tend to be courteous on the first date. Therefore, if the woman has the sincerity to accept the man, she should give a hint accordingly. If you are insensitive or hesitant, and can't convey the message of "I also think you are good" to the other party in time, and do not create conditions conducive to action for the men, maybe the relationship between the two people will not make progress eventually. To be blunt, there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at contacting women. Such men often expect women to take the initiative.
Catalyst for deepening the relationship
When dating to a certain extent, men will first consider taking the relationship further. It is said that men are lower body animals. Some people even said that they always consider the time of kissing when dating. This is not excessive. 58% of men think that if we really fit in, there will be intimate contact on the first date, which will not reduce my love for her. 21% think three dates are better, and 21% think more than six dates. Generally speaking, when they have some kind of intimate intention, they will first want to understand each other's ideas, and also try to convey their good feelings to each other.
The first condition for close contact is mutual affection. Too bold. It's not good to be slapped by a woman or poured wine on the face in public. Men are definitely sensitive and scheming old foxes when it comes to testing women's minds. When watching the movie, it is a common acting skill to pretend not to touch the woman's hand lightly, or to confirm her reaction with slight physical contact such as knee close to the woman's knee. In the bar, sitting side by side with the bar counter has the same effect. Feel her attitude through seemingly accidental contact between shoulders. If the woman immediately pulls back her hand or knee, it can be concluded that she has no intention of further development, at least not yet. On the contrary, if she does not avoid it, it means there is a play. After confirmation, how to implement the action? Extending the appointment time is the first priority. It is suggested to eat dessert after dinner, take a walk together, or send the woman home. Once such an invitation is put forward, it can basically be concluded that he is drunk.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)