My wife and I were classmates in college. At that time, she often published articles on the school website, and I was attracted by her talent. I was the president of the student union at that time, and two people with both academic and moral qualities staged a love story that made alumni envious.
After graduating from college, in order to break the curse of 'college romance and death after graduation', my wife went to work in my hometown. After working for two years, we naturally got married and had a lovely child.
I am naturally playful, while my wife is obsessed with literary creation, so much so that when I get drunk at a street stall with friends and come home, my wife even leans over the computer and studies her words.
I have always advocated for gender equality, and I have no complaints about my wife's almost obsession with online literature. I only occasionally invite her to go out and act wild with me, afraid that she may feel a bit bored at home. However, my wife almost never agrees to my request.
Recently, during sexual intercourse, I noticed that my wife is not as enthusiastic as before, and there is a noticeable avoidance in her eyes when she looks at me. I know she must have some thoughts, and I have asked her several times. She has said, 'What can I do every day except for work, if I don't leave the door? What can I do?' Therefore, I didn't pay much attention to it.
Last night, while I was watching TV in the living room and my wife was taking a shower in the bathroom, a news about the house popped up on my phone. Because it was not convenient to watch news on my phone, I searched on my computer and saw my wife's chat avatar flickering. I gave her a sneaky peek and was startled to see that she had many friends of the opposite sex in the online world, I even got very close to a few of the opposite sex men and had one night stands, all of which were when my wife brought those cheap men to my house while I was on a business trip.
I was so foolish sitting in front of the computer that I didn't even know when my wife was standing in front of me wearing a towel. It was my wife who discovered that I was peeping into her chat records and forcibly turning off the chat tool that calmed me down. At that time, a feeling of humiliation surged over my head, and in anger, I threw the computer to the ground and stomped it to pieces with my feet.
Although my wife swore that she would never betray me again, I tossed and turned in bed, unable to sleep all night. I never thought that such a gentle woman would be like a wolf in sheep's clothing in the online world. Is it really me who took a wrong look.
A divorce decision popped up in my heart, I wonder if this idea is right or wrong?
Reply:
Most of us are superficial people, because many people, like you, always like to be deceived by appearances, and the unpredictability of the human heart stems from the fact that the human heart is separated by the belly.
People who love writing often have delicate and overflowing emotions. Their strong self-esteem leads them to be unwilling to expose their vulnerability in front of their loved ones, but they are willing to act recklessly in front of strangers, because they feel that their true nature does not lose face in front of strangers, and they need to find ways to preserve their perfect image in front of their loved ones. For this reason, you peeped into the truth of a gentle woman.
She likes to stay at home and prefers a husband who can accompany her. However, your playful nature is something your wife has long known. At the same time, she also knows that instead of changing her lover, it's better to learn to adapt. However, your excessive absence from home makes her extremely disappointed. Even so, she still doesn't want to show a resentful attitude in front of you, so, as a lonely woman, she can only complete her inner distress and loneliness through online dating.
Her infidelity is obviously her fault, but the direct cause of her infidelity is that you drink and sing to each other every day. You should know that in addition to absolute respect and trust, couples also need relative companionship.
You are all a father now. It's time to put away your playful heart, take care of your wife and children's feelings, and fully understand their inner needs.
If it changes, then look at your wife's words and actions. If the result is still betrayal, then consider divorce.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)